I can only see this from the male point of view. Just touch him... the body is a great communicator. He needs to know you want him. In today's society men are constantly being told that they are monsters for their sexual desires... he is mindful of your history and doesn't want to hurt you. Now you've got to show you trust him... tell him something you would love to be done to you. He'll be hesitant... show him it's okay.