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I suggest you read a book, but unfortunately I can't give suggestions since I don't read. I have watched plenty of anime and I can tell you it's not worth it.

@ebin-bashirrudin you're not victimizing yourself, I understand what you are going. I would suggest that you apologize for any misunderstanding and explain how you want your relationship with that person to be like.

@heycutie Listen girl. First of all you know this dude better than anyone else on the internet and second of all you will be the one who has to live with the consequences of your decision. So know that you will alone be responsible for your decision. All that said, I will give you my opinion, but I have to make a DISCLAIMER first. I have never had a relationship before, the advice I'm giving you is based on common sense and my opinion.

Look from what you wrote here, it seems like you have a genuine friendship or connection with him. I could never ask you to loose or jeopardize that. But it seems like he doesn't see this relationship as a friendship only, but more than that. I hope for your sake that you have other friends in case this friendship doesn't last.

Ask yourself what is it that you want from this relationship. Really ask yourself that and ponder 🤔 for a while. Do you want this friendship to continue as one or are you open to more than that. The decision is all yours, not his, not mine, nor anyone else on the internet. Whatever your decision is, communicate them very clearly and have boundaries that you can't let anyone, including your family cross. If he respects those boundaries of yours, than you may have him in your life, if that is what you wish. It seems like he has already crossed those boundaries few times, but also apologized and you have forgiven him which is kind of you. But there should be a limit to how many times you let people cross you. If they keep crossing you, than I don't think they deserve you and thus you should cut the relationship in my opinion.

Going back to your friend and why he ghosted you. If I had to guess the reason behind him ghosting you. I would say that he did it for your attention. Perhaps he was thinking that if he acted busy and pretended to have a life you would find him attractive and thus would want to have relationship with him beyond just friendship or maybe simply he was low-key mad at you for blocking him. But obviously as you are well aware of, friendship is not just one-way street, but two-way street.

Maybe I'm completely wrong about him and he's actually busy turning his life around and working on himself. Even than, he should have at least a time of his day to say hi and chat for a bit. A friend would never let you hanging like that. If he wants to be a true friend, he should step up his game. If he doesn't want that, maybe you should reconsider your friendship with him.

Sorry for the long post, hope you got through it all. I also hope your relationship with him, whatever it may be satisfies you both now and in the long term. 😊

Now I have to sleep 💤😴 Goodnight ☺️

@lisamini I'm just posting what worked for me. Printing alone is not enough, you must take action rather now.

Wow, what a beautiful poem. Was it you that came up with that?

Practical advice. SLEEP, EXERCISE(preferably with someone) 2 times at least per week, be PHYSICALLY ACTIVE everyday and for the MOST PART of the day. EAT CLEAN, meaning try to get all the nutrients your body needs from variaty of foods. I usually take multivitamins because my diet sucks. SOCIALIZE, talk to more people, family members and friends. Get new friends, and hangout out more with your old and new friends. Mindset advice. Be GRATEFUL ALL THE TIME, even about the smallest things. I always thank God for good health, for having a roof over my head, for being able to walk/run, so on and on. Lastly, but also important. GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD, BE MINDFUL AND PRESENT. FOCUS! Bonus tip. Get out there, stop CONSUMING so much information from the internet, YouTube, social media and Movies/tv shows and so on.

🤣, ok. I don't even know why I asked. On a second thought, don't answer that. I see how it could have or might have come out as. At least tell me what is it that you study at school?

That's very responsible of you, going to school and working. I couldn't handle that. I hope you had a great sleep last night because I had the worst sleep according to my energy level and my smartwatch. I have only slept 3 hours and 19 min and couldn't go back to sleep.

@tm haha don't worry, nobody thinks you're an incel. An incel to me is someone who believes they can't attract any woman and thus gave up working on themselves and there body. Also like you said they have disgusting ideas of women in general. So you're definitely not an INCEL.

How about asking a friend to ask him on your behalf if he is into you or if he could be.

Do you go to school or work?

I work as a d2d sales. Knock on people's doors and offer a better internet, tv and mobile services. It is scary since I am new to the job. But it's the reason I chose this job. To simply get out of my comfort zone. And not being afraid of interacting with people.

Yea, I hope so too, because I wanna get back to work tomorrow. Have I got any hobbies? Not really unless going to the gym is a considered a hobby. Maybe responding to strangers asking for a relationship advice on this platform will be my new hobby. I have done it quite a lot now and I seem to like. What about you?

Go and chat with any girl you're attracted to. Than ask them out. Don't fear rejection, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. If you're afraid of what people will think of you, DON'T BE. Trust me, they will applaud for your courage, in there own minds, even the girl. Lastly DO NOT PUT GIRLS ON A PEDESTAL!! They are first and foremost human beings, stop treating them as if they were queen 👑 or a celebrity. They're NOT. You are absolutely worthy of taking up space next to them. Both of you are equals just like friends are. Treat her as you should treat a friend.

The best advice I can give you is GROW TOGETHER. We all have some arias in our life we need to improve upon. Maybe you guys can go to the gym together and do many other things. Also help each other to become a better person. Remind each other of for example dietary tips or meditation. And most importantly talk to each other. You do not have to have secrets from one another.

I'm sorry to hear what you went through. No girl should ever have to go through that. I hope you feel better soon. It sounds like you have an amazing boyfriend. Make sure to cherish him. I hope you both grow old together. ❤️ Maybe you should speak to people who went through the same trauma as you. I'm sure they will be able to help you. If you ever need to talk, don't forget that you have amazing parents and boyfriend. You don't have to keep it all inside and I hope you have shoulders to cry on if you would ever need it.

@idarose1975 What's your question? I'm not sure of it.

I'm good, just little sick 😷. Sorry for the late reply. I was replying to other users who had questions I felt knowledgeable in. Anyways, how are you doing? 🙂

@heycutie It's simple really, he wants one thing from you that almost every guy who befriends a girl wants from them. Sex or a relationship. If only sex, DO NOT give it to him. Once you do that he will most likely move on while you will be more attracted to him than ever before. If you want to be with him and he wants to be with you. Than start a relationship with him and see if he's committed to you before you have sex with him. Most guys usually do not want to be friends with girls. Do not take it the wrong. It's not that you're not worthy of friendship or other girls aren't. It's just that most guys don't have anything in common with girls. So most common reason guys hangout with girls is because of the sexual attraction they have towards them. Younger men don't realize this because it's unconscious. If he has now ghosted you, it's because he realized he has no chance of having an intimacy or a relationship with you. Please do not waste his time by entertaining to/with him the idea of being together if that's not your intention. Good luck 🤞 girl.