Posts made by Achal99

@Shardana Always! Haha. Kidding. Yeah, it's my pleasure. When I see your contents, I am mesmerized.. Something's different, full of wisdom and maturity. So, yeah, anytime!
Did you start reading the book I referred to you ? I wanna know, quite eager actually😅 what do you feel about it?

@Shardana said in I need advice on dating a woman that has a child:

How nice to read about someone with such good feelings. Did you ask her about her little girl's father? Do you know if she was married? Or what is her relationship with this man? If you are, as it seems, serious about her ... show yourself, sincere, sensitive, open, understanding and firm. You don't have to compromise. You have to think and ask yourself and her what is right. Ask as many questions as possible to understand (not judge) and base your choice on her actions, her words and your heart. If she also wants a serious relationship with you, she will confide in you slowly .. it may be that she has lived a troubled relationship and has difficulty opening up. Best wishes

It was a nice piece of advice, I appreciate it but I think it was in early 2018 when this doubt was raised and he really, hopefully, got married to that girl.

when we do mistakes, crisis or problems pops up in our life.. how we react to those challenging situations also reveals our inner stuffs and character. when agitated, whatever is inside shows up- it could be anger, hatred, jealousy or it could be integrity, compassion and love. Apart from having lessons from failures, it helps us in reforming our existence.. a life lived wonderfully- is an inspiration and hope for others in distress too. It's kind of holistic. so, yeah.. lot to learn from failures.

now, that what I would call pure, selfless, unmotivated love! only for the happiness of our object of affection. very rare, keep it as it is, people needs more of it. I hope you are fine emotionally and at peace at heart.

@Shardana https://krishna.org/science-self-realization-1977-pdf-download/

@Shardana people in the name of God's will doing all kind of nonsense and heinous activities are cheaters. They pose to be made of some high moral fibres..
Anyways, I will share the link..you go through -3 sub chapters of 1st chapter. Go though them, tell me how you feel about it. And if you feel like reading the rest of it, please do!

We all are looking for happiness/pleasure -be it in a relationship, or work, eating a piece of cake, winning a lottery, boozing, sex, fame, wealth, or any other opulences. We may be having different paths, different upbringings, different status but we all share a common driving force and a common goal- to be happy! Yet despite all perseverance, we aren’t satisfied and often feel a sense of longing for “something”. Poor people think that having all the comforts might make them happy and whereas wealthy people, despite having everything..are restless, depressed and disturbed. At times we hanker for something or someone so dearly and after a while that very thing or person becomes the cause of our lamentation. Look at the faces of people on the streets carefully. You’ll see that they don’t only look lost in thought, but also seem anxious, on edge, annoyed and, most importantly, unhappy. Listen to what they are talking about and you’ll hear that they keep complaining to each other about their problems and how distressed they are. So, what is happiness really? Or is it just an imaginary thing to have? Or are we looking it at the wrong places?

I agree what you say about hypocrisy and stuffs.. it's every where. Someone says ABC, others say xyz😂 that was reason I also hated it. faith and religion is something which changes..today I'm Christian, in future I can change it to muslim. An year ago, I came across the highest and most authoritative source on this planet( literally). It's scientific and it kind of United everything and changed my perspective about it. It says that it's not about religion, people fight on the basis of their religion, colour, creed, nationality etc but essentially we are not this body, we are soul! No matter what you are, we all are soul and related to each other. It also says, the only purpose of spirituality is to reestablish that inner connection and to attain the love of God head. I also read something very interesting, I would like to quote that- "A dog will recognize his master in whatever way he dresses. The master may dress in robes, suit and tie, or stand naked, but the dog will always recognize his master. If we cannot recognize God, our beloved master, when he comes in a different dress from another religion, then we are less than that dog" ..when I read this, I was like this is it! If you feel like knowing about it, if you do, let me know..I have a link to a free book on "science of self realisation". You read a lot right, so give it a try...

let's just say your seed wasn't nurtured properly, but with experience it might fructify too. It's just that we don't have the name, address, identity of god.. because we don't see him roaming on streets everyday. people usually believe on what they see! but lot of things are there which we can't see and perceive and yet we talk about them with such ease, thanks to the authority we have. when you were in school, you were told about electrons right? you wouldn't have doubted that or when you were taught history or when you were told that 1+1=2, because we rely on the authority and when we have proper insights, those things starts making sense isn't it? But this is not the same with God, people usually think this to be some common topic on which everyone can give their own concocted philosophies... it's like children trying to make sense of college mathematics.. point being, isn't it also obvious that to gain knowledge about higher stuffs we need to approach a person who knows about such stuffs or one who can give us insights? just like we have professor for science and don't think the seed won't germinate, I have met people who after gaining the right knowledge turned from a staunch faithless to monks. yeah! that's right. All you need is a authoritative source. does it makes sense? or am I pushing it too far?😅

@Shardana we develop faith through reasoning-it's like when we seek, we find!! ..moreover, faith comes through direct experience of a higher reality or through the company of those who have attained that faith.

yes, there is. ask yourself a question that is this the first time you are feeling your existence.? ..like all of sudden you came to consciousness on your birth date? Unlike what others suggest this piece of life to be the product of combination of chemicals, which is absurd and not possible at all and if it is then why chemicals at our disposal can't produce some animate object? because life comes from life! consciousness is a symptom of the presence of soul- just like sunlight comes from sun(here sunlight is likened to consciousness spread all over our body and sun to be like soul). Moreover, there have been lot of scientific research too like near death experiments, past life regression therapy and countless other proofs that there is something beyond this body and mind and it passes on from one life to other- soul! . we can't trace soul because it's very small for us to probe it and it's not something which can be traced by any instruments.. let alone that, we can't even trace mind! they call our thoughts to be some electrical signals in the brain but yet no one can make a sense out of them. so, yeah there is life after death for sure.

@Baby-Nyxe goto your profile, you will see 3dots, you will find post section.. delete from there.

@Ziah_99 people who are trying to make others happy are the most happiest people. It automatically brings a smile on our face but we often expect something in an exchange which takes away the spirit. Our happiness follows from others, provided we don't mess it up😆

@Shardana hope that really helps you. So, still a non believer? 😄

Science can prove his existence, it's right in front of them. But what scientists are trying to do is- they are trying to fit god according to their own concoctions. But, science does leads to spirituality. You can't expect to perform experiment on table top of everything you need to believe in. In fact, there are so many things which are inconceivable according to our senses and tiny brain but still we have tools like mathematics on which we do believe, and hence we believe on its result. From centuries this is what's happening! Say, mind! No one can see mind and no technology can probe it..but it's there. We all are like frogs in a well and trying to imagine the vastness of Pacific Ocean in terms of our tiny - "well". Normally, people today believe what they hear from authority - scientists. They say , we believe. We need to search and experience that on our own, any sane person can arrive at the conclusion that god does exist. Ofcourse one doesn't blindly follow it, but isn't it more reasonable that you search first?

if you are asking of pure love, it doesn't exist here in this world..be it between man and a woman or man and man or woman and woman. Love is not bounded by sexes, but before that you must know what pure love looks like and where do we see it? so, pure love is selfless and unmotivated by any personal selfish desires. what we see about so called "love" in today's world is merely few millimeter deep, because skin is in mm. we don't see a person running after an ugly or fat girl, even though she might be perfect in all of her attributes. people are after slim, crisp bodily features. moreover, they are basically after their selfish desires( which is lust) and once they have enjoyed the that person, the lust sets off and the people starts to realize incompatibility with their partners..that's why they end up in separation! the idea of "love" in the begining is motivated by looks(lust) which covers one's intelligence and the person is not able to think right..even though he might say the opposite. people are often together for what they can get from others and not because of what they can give. pure love is selfless, not depended on sexes, or looks. In this whole world this selfless love you will find only between a mother and her newly born child. whatever the mother does is selfless, all she cares about is her little infant. she voluntarily accepts discomfort for her child and all her activities are meant for her child's satisfaction. That's what love is. this same idea of love can be extended to each and every living beings. This pure love has one aspect though- "compassion". just like fire is hot, sugar is sweet, similarly, this pure love when expressed, comes out as "compassion" not that you try to rub your genitals with some person and call it to be love.. that's pure lust! so, to answer your question whether it is bisexual.. well, it is beyond that and can be extended to other living entities.. which is expressed as compassion and desire to serve selflessly for the satisfaction/happiness of the object of our love. so, what you feel normally is Lust.. we call it to be love because that's how our modernism has propagated it( in a perverted fashion). hope this helps.