Posts made by Achal99

@Ash005 of course, I respect that:)

@ArabellaA that's a good start. that's how one start wondering and gets fed up with this world.. it's time that you should search for deeper meaning, something like in spiritual domain. best thing is you can escape if you really seek for it.

@Ash005 desires are very fleeting and doesn't provide zing in the long run. Today you can have 'abc' desire, tomorrow you will be running after 'xyz'.. if that's how we mean to run helter-skelter throughout our lives, life would be shallow and "meaningless". everyone is going somewhere, we are following them too and if asked why? we go like- "oh, everyone is going there".. we eat, we breath, we sustain ourselves etc, why? -- to live!.. well, why do you want to live sir? --idk. most people just go blank at that question.. some people just want to follow their passion(desires) but it's not going to last long, at the end you would sill be unsatisfied and disturbed. in fact, Charlie Chaplin was diagnosed with mental health issues too.. if that's how life is going to end after following our "desires", what's the point in living then? life is more than just desires, unless there is a meaning and purpose to our lives- we will continue look for that "meaning" here and there in the name of desires. Also, if life was only about desires.. what could possibly define the state of drug addicts? they might think it to be the highest thing in the life to pursue for, but a sane person will be able to see their misery and how much they are actually suffering. desires can be toxic and might lead to distress and at times desires are so overwhelming that they makes us do so many things which we might later regret and lament like anything. of course desires are there, it's the characteristics of living beings.. but life is not just desires!!

@Miss_Imperfect I guess by now you must be having two grandchildren? :face_with_tears_of_joy:
glad it made sense!

@Heccikage well, if the sorry is really genuine then it's enough and yeah things won't go back to normal right away but we can really appreciate that at least they are sorry.. I mean most of the people don't even say that. We can go even further, humans do make mistakes or sometimes go even beyond that because people are motivated and affected by their "conditionings" and "situations/circumstances". In this world, people learn to hate even before they learn to reason.. sure, we get hurt but we can place ourselves in their place and think from their perspectives. if something like that would have happened because of me, we naturally aspect others to understand us right? then why not with others? why not listen to them? if people have that one fault then we must reflect that upon us and see how many faults we have?!
of course somethings would just not make sense to us, we go like- "I wouldn't have done that " but we must remembers that we all are "conditioned" beings and also it would help us if we forgive them, otherwise we will keep burning from within and lose our peace of mind. A humble and a grateful heart is always happy and that can happen only if we learn to forgive and don't let your ego in between. what's more important than people realizing their mistake and trying to work on it right? rather than focusing on what they did, we can look out for why they did it? like core reason? it could be insecurity, greed, ignorance, uncontrolled urges etc. we all are conditioned by all these things, some people have different blend and amounts in their personality traits. how could that love be so insubstantial and weak that over some misdoings we can't accept them back?
Also, there could be a possibility that the person is toxic-we should move away after we have exhausted with all our efforts, tolerance, patience etc. but in either case, it's the people and love which matters.. love means reciprocation, and you can't love things.
long thing short- trust doesn't go back to normal immediately, it takes time but we shouldn't be driven by past mistakes and mishaps and judge others on that basis, especially if that person is trying really hard to transform himself/herself. In "love" our inconveniences doesn't matter much but only the happiness of our loved ones.. if you truly love someone, you must learn to forgive them.

I felt like it's literally written for me.. I really needed this. Thanks bud for putting this up:)

You are Ukrainian or not, I am glad to see a human. hello! :)
not only your friends are lost but you are lost too, actually we all are lost. and just like you we all landed here. when I saw the title- I thought it to be some sort of philosophical question. haha. but it's a nice question to ponder upon though- why are you really here, on earth? and of course, where did you come from?
but anyways, think about it.. you had friends, now you feel alone and now you have a fiance too. congrats btw.. so, yeah today she is there but at some point of time you are going to be alone again. I don't want sound harsh but we should face the reality with a sober mind and not that we are living our whole life in a denial right. why am I saying this? because we all are looking for that zing in relations, in people, in things etc and I see your disappointment in the people around you. I don't know how far your search of connecting with people around the world will go and for how long.. I would like to say something about it though- the problem here is not about where you live and with whom you live, people in general, everywhere around the globe are dissatisfied and feel alone amidst their loved ones too and that's a fact. we have a tendency to think that grass is always greener on the other side. I don't mean to destroy your spirit but just to give a proper perspective you know. what I mean to say is, that zing which you and we all are seeking doesn't lie outside -in "things" or "people" or in situations but within ourselves! We all are investing a great deal of time in managing the external affairs so well but we have are not even considering the crisis within which is where whole worlds starts to make sense. for instance- if within , you are agitated then no matter what you do and search externally, you won't be at ease at all. In a nutshell, what I am trying to say is- try to invest your time to figure the stuffs within. that way it won't matter where you are living or what is happening around. hope that makes sense.

@An-Evil-Clown love has nothing to do with sex. it's bodily attraction!! we confuse that with love. gay or not gay, that's not the point.

@Kalpa-Wishvajith that's a good idea buddy, but I am not someone who can really contribute anything. but, yeah.. I would like to give it a try.

@Shardana certainly there are things more important than wealth, beauty, or fame etc but we often times don't get to choose our state of health, like a person suffering from some sort of chronic disease or cancer or could be anything. at that moment no matter how much we try our best to get over it, we just can't! ..that time all that a person needs is love, affection and association of his beloved people. I mean what's the point of having a good health when there is no one in our lives with whom we can reciprocate our feelings and emotions. No doubt health is necessary but not the only important thing in life and that's right- things do lose their meaning if a person goes away but that shouldn't condemn us from having a purposeful or meaningful life. because one day or the other we'll become old and weak, that time if there is no one in our lives then what's the point? that also doesn't means that we should be running after wealth or fame or beauty or puffed up of our status, NO! big no! that too will lose it's meaning. People now a days are very much in to these things.. they love things and use people to get it, but people are meant to be loved and things are meant to be used.. things just can't give fulfillment to the heart only meaningful love and relation can! ( not any superficial relations, NO!)
This is, I guess is the most important thing in life.

@kaia_ we can't be in a state of bliss if mind isn't peaceful.. when mind is disturbed there is unease or frustration or bewilderment or some sort of distress. but happiness is not only confined to the 'peace of mind"( it is one of the aspect tho) but also inevitably, there is a sense of purpose for greater good or something higher, not just for ourselves but also others. When we learn to dovetail our lives in that way-we not only get happiness but also peace of mind( they are related anyway).

@kaia_ happy at every moment is possible and I have seen it, if you ever get the chance of meeting a saint( real saint), you would see the opposite. surely, ups and downs are there, but if we have something "higher", we can tolerate or easily ignore the onslaught( distress and happiness). just like when we are busy in playing and if we get a bruise, we won't feel much of pain or even know about it.. only, when we rest or stop playing, we realize a bruise. so, here playing is like a higher taste or involvement which enabled the boy to ignore and not feel the pain.. that's a practical experience. ( just an example, not to be taken too far where we broke our hand and we don't realize that we are hurt ! hahaha) we all need to find the higher involvement. and about-we can't distinguish one without the other is not certainly true. have you seen a child 3-4 yr old?.. he doesn't have suffering like we do( mental or emotional), but is by nature always happy! only when he's hurt or something he might cry.. but the point being- from childhood everyone are happy! consider another example- by your thought process, does it mean that to experience "sweetness" of sugar you need to have "bitter gourd" ? certainly, NO! right? similarly, by nature we all are happy and seeking it, we don't need to experience distress to taste what happiness feels like. it's just those who are very disturbed or distressed, are dearly in search of happiness( of course! no one wants discomfort or distress). so, we should seek for "higher pleasures" by which we won't be much affected by lower or mundane distress- happiness.. example is that of saints or monks.

@MadMax_Sensei we all are naturally seeking for happiness, today we have something, tomorrow we'll be looking for something else. Our base drive is to attain pleasure or happiness. we all can't be happy unless we pursue it but it depends where you pursue it. In today's world we all are seeking for it in things or outside world.. if we look at saints and their experiences, they say to seek happiness within ourselves. So, instead of looking for it outside try to look within yourself because if within there is no peace or satisfaction or happiness, you will always be agitated by what happens on the outside and this world is full of uncertainties and objects of pleasure are temporary, they can give you pleasure only for a while and not for too long.. that's why people are always on the look out for something new and exciting but again those things too don't last long. A beautiful analogy is given in this regard- there is deer who's glands secret a fragrant musk and that deer spends his whole life searching for it but he's unable to find it 'cause it's right there inside him. so, like that deer we all are looking for happiness here and there but it's within ourselves. pursue it within!
without pursuit you can't be happy 'cause knowingly or unknowingly we all are in pursuit of it. that's in our nature, you can't stop looking for it.

@MadMax_Sensei I would appreciate if you look at the following link, might give an insight maybe!
https://chatrooms.talkwithstranger.com/topic/64962/pursuit-of-happiness-let-s-discuss-shall-we

@Shardana everything one would want to hear and consider. nicely done!

@Crazyman36 having preconception about something or someone in advance, without confronting what other things or person has to offer, limits our scope of understanding and growth. Usually, prejudice is born out of one's conditioning- the environment in which he was raised and most of all, people while growing up take loads of information from people and they analyze with their own limited brains.. and that's how one reaches to an understanding about someone or something( hence, develops a specific understanding patterns). it's something like they are wearing their own blue colored glasses and believe the world to be bluish! but they fail to consider even to look through other's glasses. prejudice could be 'cause of limited understanding or due to ego(which gives a person an impression that what he believes is the only way and ultimate truth, people like these live in ignorance for their entire existence)

whole life is spend in the "pursuit of happiness" but we don't get it for too long. we have some beloved person, they will be taken away by the passage of time or get separated after fights. people yearn for happiness, but they think that may be running after money will buy them happiness, but we see it is not the truth- even after getting more he strives for more or remains in awe "if his wealth and position is taken away what will he do?" and there we have disturbed mind and no peace there too. and if goal of life was in comforts and wealth then why do we see people doing suicides? mentally ill- in America it's quite prevalent. now a days, people love things and use people to get those things but instead, people were meant to be loved and things to be used. we can go on boozing, partying, on a world tour, watching shows etc trying to get over our feeling of distress, loneliness but we can't go on recreational activities for forever. we are in the pursuit of happiness but we aren't getting it. in fact, if we take it more further, talking of pleasure in other living beings, they have the tendency to seek for pleasure too. for ants on tabletop, having sweets is her pleasure. dogs and cats have their way of obtaining sensual pleasure too. so, this living force is after pleasure! we don't see dead matter desiring for anything. In all the living entities we see, it's the soul- the conscious being with in the body.. who desires for pleasure. soul is like a driver in the car, car is like a body. if we feed only the car( feeding petrol) and don't give anything to eat to the driver, he will die. similarly, bodily pleasures/sensory pleasures can't give fulfillment to the heart/ soul.. for soul, food should be spiritual too. bodily pleasures/sensory pleasures can give a fleeting, temporary pleasure to the body and mind but it can't give nourishment to the soul(self). That's why we are never satisfied of our desires( material desires), because it's not the food for our heart.. it's due to ignorance we think that by enjoying the things or having them in abundance will makes us happy, but they don't and we all have experienced that. Only love, meaningful love can satisfy our heart, that's why you will see.. more than anything or whatever people do( earning wealth, fame, etc) is for having people in their lives, for association, for love and affection. all other things are secondary, but sadly we are focusing too much on that - to be the life's goal! which is perverted and not the real purpose at all.

that's the issue, the desires are never satisfied. have you ever heard a person satisfied of hunger forever, no! tomorrow he will again be hungry. what about those who are after sexual pleasures ? there desires are never satisfied. if one has money, he wants more! if today he has some car, he will desire more exotic cars; he has a girlfriend- he still desires to enjoy with other women; These all desires are like fueling the fire. in fact, running after them person laments if those things are taken away and often becomes mad, disturbed. yes, that sense of satisfaction is missing. so, where we will find it?

@Shardana you can click on my profile and just by my profile pic you will see a "plus" sign. click it!

@Shardana to be honest, it's surprising that you read gita before.. about that I would like to tell one thing that there are thousands of commentaries written by loads of philosopher but they haven't touched the crux of gita at all.. they put their own speculative theories/concoctions which takes the spirit out of it. that for later, we will discuss about that- I will give you the commentary of a "self realized soul" who gave this in 1970s.. the picture you see in the beginning is that exact spiritual teacher. in fact about what you mentioned- greek and latin, you will be surprised that in fact all of them be it- Christian, muslim, jew, zoroastrian , etc message is same. they all talk of the same god but due to our bodily diversities, history, religion, narrow mind -men created this sense of division but in actuality all lead to the same person. anyways, we'll talk about that too. and why is he blue? I think, if you feel that right too , we can add each other and talk privately? if that's okay with you, of course!