First of all, sorry about your mate's dad.
I'm not sure about death being just, "Holodeck, end program", tho. It doesn't seem very resource-effective on God's part. I don't think He'd find any of this particularly mirthful, either, unless he has a very sophisticated sense of humour --and if He has, that's not a bad thing is it? Bojack Horseman won't last forever: we need some new genres in comedy.
Beyond that, who is to say that death even exists? It could be fake news. You could say, 'Oh, you didn't exist before you were born - when you die, it'll just be like returning to that'. And yet I've had a sense of momentum all my life. Maybe it came from somewhere before I was born.
I am Indrid Cold. I WILL GO TO ZA'HA'DUM, BUT I WILL NOT DIE.
