Should We Change For Relationships?

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@TheGoldenMole said in Should We Change For Relationships?:

I still have many more questions about change, but they branch out so much that I thought I would just make a different topic for this one.
Do you think people should change for/in a relationship?

Nope they shouldn't change, not even for special one.

It can be for a girlfriend, boyfriend, any kind of partner, but when people change for their relationship do you think this is wrong or okay?

It is wrong because they are trying to impress that specific person. I am not saying impressing someone is wrong . They can pretend to be an innocent or honest but they ain't really like that.
On the other hand if a person leaves stealing/lying (or any other bad habit) because of his partner doesn't want him to do that, i don't think that is wrong. If he really leaves it, he may not do anything wrong.

Should we need to change when in relationships or are we supposed to accept our partners as is- flaws and all?

Nope we should not change because we could think about our differences before making a relationahip. Couldn't we ?
We should be honest and tell the truth because the relationship won't be so long with lies.

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@TheGoldenMole If it's a bad habit, then yes.
If not, then you should change the relationship. Not yourself.

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@Marshmello what if your partner is asking you to change? like to change the amount of time you spend on your hobbies or to stop some kind of rude humor?

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@INFINITY What if it is a bad habit to them but not to you so they want you to change it but you don't think it is bad and they do?

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@TheGoldenMole I will deny to change but if she acts like an obstinate girl, I will leave her.

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@TheGoldenMole Changing your bad habits, trying to correct your mistakes, n all that is fine....n that is what u should do!But changing yourself, or totally becoming someone who u r not just for somebody who doesn't value u for who u r would be utter stupidity.The bottom line is: Never change who u r no matter what.

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@TheGoldenMole Uh...change the relationship?

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@TheGoldenMole "Change" while in a relationship is "growing up". That is necessary in a relationship. You have to mature. Else it wont last or your relationship will easily crumble.

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@Kiss_My_Axe but what if it gets to a point where you’ve changed persons? You don’t even feel like yourself anymore because you’re changing so much trying to please your partner. Is that change still good?

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@TheGoldenMole No. At least have some reservations for yourself. Love should be a two way relationship. If you are not happy anymore, then break it find a new one.