Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?

[cjko]

@Anastasia-Smith well, it really depends on your preferences. When you get old or when you aged ,and sooo done with people's mind games, you will look for someone who is good for your soul and spirit. Spending time and investing anything fun on someone you didn't see any glimpse of future with , is a waste of time. (Imo)

Engaging in an open relationship or in a no strings attached rs oftentimes hurt the other person involved.. you don't want to end in that same cycle for too long, right? I didn't see any "fun" when there is "hurting".

[cjko]

@Leoweirdo that's why the modern era dating is awful..

[[[global:former-user]]]

@cjko I totally understand you...that is why I mentioned that in the near future I'll surely look for a promised relationship and not just for fun's sake however thats situational. As for now I guess I'm not into the concept of dating for marriage. As for people who choose the no strings attached relationship for their future there's nothing too wrong with it...I totally support you in the fact that when one grows old they surely require a partner to spend their time with however not everyone looks for a promised relationship some people prefer to remain single throughout their lives cuz they find it more satisfactory. But yes when I age I wouldn't look for the no promises relationship.

[cjko]

@Anastasia-Smith said in Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?:

@cjko I totally understand you...that is why I mentioned that in the near future I'll surely look for a promised relationship and not just for fun's sake however thats situational. As for now I guess I'm not into the concept of dating for marriage. As for people who choose the no strings attached relationship for their future there's nothing too wrong with it...I totally support you in the fact that when one grows old they surely require a partner to spend their time with however not everyone looks for a promised relationship some people prefer to remain single throughout their lives cuz they find it more satisfactory. But yes when I age I wouldn't look for the no promises relationship.

Thank you. I understand your situation and maybe you're too young for that also.. Well, you have to be accountable at your own risk if you will jump into something unknown, it maybe look fun in your perspective and nothing will happen in the end but one thing is for sure , you have to be vigilant not to fall on trap. One philosopher said "it's better to be safe than sorry". Guard your heart, don't let anyone ruin it.

[[[global:former-user]]]

@cjko thanks for the advice. I'll keep that in mind

[cjko]

@Anastasia-Smith my pleasure.

[pe7erpark3r]

You know, I think you got to date for fun. If you cannot enjoy the moment, if you cannot really let yourself fall into it, then you have already lost, is what I think.

So dating for fun, and then, proposal for marriage

[cjko]

@petrapark3r said in Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?:

You know, I think you got to date for fun. If you cannot enjoy the moment, if you cannot really let yourself fall into it, then you have already lost, is what I think.

So dating for fun, and then, proposal for marriage

You mean, you chose to date that person for fun not seeing anything potential at first, then leave them if you find them boring and you don't have fun anymore with them ? Then the cycle starts?

[bye69]

@cjko I think this is the very definition of dating. Like a trial and error?

[pe7erpark3r]

@cjko said in Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?:

@petrapark3r said in Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?:

You know, I think you got to date for fun. If you cannot enjoy the moment, if you cannot really let yourself fall into it, then you have already lost, is what I think.

So dating for fun, and then, proposal for marriage

You mean, you chose to date that person for fun not seeing anything potential at first, then leave them if you find them boring and you don't have fun anymore with them ? Then the cycle starts?

Well how do you figure out if you're compatible with someone? Do you "know" it when you look them in the eyes for the first time? I sure don't. And if I didn't enjoy dating that person, without trying to make her my wife from the start, how could she even like me?

[pe7erpark3r]

@cjko said in Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?:

@petrapark3r said in Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?:

You know, I think you got to date for fun. If you cannot enjoy the moment, if you cannot really let yourself fall into it, then you have already lost, is what I think.

So dating for fun, and then, proposal for marriage

You mean, you chose to date that person for fun not seeing anything potential at first, then leave them if you find them boring and you don't have fun anymore with them ? Then the cycle starts?

You know when I changed my name, and my DMs were still (unintentionally) open, I had a guy in my DMs who told me as the fifth message, that I was the one for him. I told him I already had found the one. And he started to beg me not to break him and tried to convince me that I was his one. I was nice all the time, but then at some point I just had enough and blocked him. How can you like someone who wants you to be his one and only right from the start? That's just creepy...

[RoseStar]

@cjko girl I've always heard whats the point of dating if not marriage? If a person just wants to date for fun then I'd kick the person out. There must be an end goal to dating and not just mere fun. It's like playing with emotions if it's all just for fun and that wouldn't be called serious dating as well.

[cjko]

@Leoweirdo trial and error.. like, select and throw? why not know that person first everything about that person then jump into something serious if it's smoothly compatible?
(Imo)

[bye69]

@cjko Based on your answers, I can tell that you came from a bad relationship. Did your bf cheat on you?

[pe7erpark3r]

Now I think I should add something. If you exclude the possibility of marriage from dating, then I think you need to grow the f up. But I still think it's okay, if you let the other understand properly.

Now another thing I think, is that dating ≠ having sex. Having sex is much more serious to me you know? And you should never just hop onto it without properly thinking through what you're getting yourself into...

[cjko]

@petrapark3r said in Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?:

@cjko said in Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?:

@petrapark3r said in Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?:

You know, I think you got to date for fun. If you cannot enjoy the moment, if you cannot really let yourself fall into it, then you have already lost, is what I think.

So dating for fun, and then, proposal for marriage

You mean, you chose to date that person for fun not seeing anything potential at first, then leave them if you find them boring and you don't have fun anymore with them ? Then the cycle starts?

Well how do you figure out if you're compatible with someone?

befriend that person, spend time with that person and know that person's story

Talking before dating.. safest way (imo)

Do you "know" it when you look them in the eyes for the first time? I sure don't.
some did and it happened

[cjko]

@RoseoStarlo hmm, you have a point

[cjko]

@Leoweirdo what if I just base it on someone's situation?

[pe7erpark3r]

@cjko said in Which one do you prefer dating for marriage or for fun ?:

befriend that person, spend time with that person and know that person's story

Uh, I think I'm getting what we're actually talking about here. This is a cultural difference. Like, here, you just go on dates with different people to get to know them. It's called dating, yes.

The other thing, being together, is also called dating here, but I guess there (at your place) the first one is not, innit?

Talking before dating.. safest way (imo)

Nothing against being friends first...
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Do you "know" it when you look them in the eyes for the first time? I sure don't.
some did and it happened

It's the exception though, not the rule...

[bye69]

@cjko i think no. Your answers are solid! It came from the heart. I can feel u even if we are miles apart.