@Connielynne aspergers connie-lynne? You describe the symptoms and the coping strategies very well. A line of poetry for you thata i always related to, by Louis mcniece- i peel and portion a tangerine and spit the pips and feel THE DRUNKENNESS OF THINGS BEING VARIOUS (my caps, not his, doesn't that nail it)
But I will say this, I certainly hope youre not considering getting pregnant with the hope that you will then be able to get married. Marriage and having children is not kiddie play. Its very serious business. It requires maturity, responsibility, and commitment (a life time of it). Anyone who would consider bringing a child into the world just so they can get married, could very well be lacking in the maturity aspect.
If shes 18 or older but i would be careful if your b/f is older then 18 because he could face some prision time.
If you are under 16 no there is no way you can get married without a court order and it is hard to obtain one. I am going through this with my daughter.
You have the answer to your question. FIrst do a self analysis 1) How long have you known this boy friend? 2) How old are you and how old is he ? 3) IS it a strong relationship or a just a physical attraction.
IF your relationship is pretty strong then and you both understand each other well, then you need to ask him the questions straight forward. Is he ready for a commitment moresoever a baby. Be frank,,,,because raising a baby is no childs play.
Secondly are you ready for a baby ?
Thirdly if he is scared then he is not concerned about you. Because it is hapening to you. ASk him forthright It would be a true test of your relationship.
First, what is your decision about your pregnancy? Are you ready to become a mother? Contact a Planned Parenthood and discuss all of your options (including prenatal care.) Have a friend or family member go with you.
Regardless of your bfs feelings--and Id say hes scard of what has happened--if he is the father of your child, and a paternity test proves this, he at the least is financially obligated to assist your baby. Ill be honest in saying that there are guys (not all) who attempt to do a disappearing act when they find out that they have fathered a child. Even if the relationship is over, he will still be legally responsible if you have his child.
Focus on you and you pregnancy--you need to stay as healthy as possible if you decide to have this child.
Bad? Not necessarily. But immature, untrustworthy, undependable and troubled - yes. Walk away. Run.
Why do you have a boyfriend whos already a loser in the first place? Get your act together, educate yourself, and find your self worth, then hopefully youll find a guy who isnt such a loser.
Stealing and lying is just the beginning of a bad trip. He may not be a bad guy but one without morals. Eventually, that can come back to bite you. I had a boyfriend like that and he basically took advantage of everything and anybody. I dumped him with a big bang.
First of all you no need to get married if you love some one, marriage is a agreement a bond paper done by authorities, by rules and regulations and with given choices..
Question to ask do you really need a paper to prove your love ??
Age is a number, maturity is experienced knowledge, u need maturity to understand love is ..