@st-wolf Well I couldn't handle myself. Reading that was rather eye-straining. Atleast for me. And for the question, I'd go for love. In Love, you can have both. In friendship, you're stuck with...well...friendship haha
everything that you have done in the past or that someone did to you, makes you who you are. but all these things don't define what you are going to do in the future.
your past defines who you are now, but not who you are going to be.