"Today is only one day in all the days that will ever be. But what will happen in all the other days that ever come can depend on what you do today. It's been that way all this year. It's been that way so many times." -Hemingway
My health is my wealth. My knowledge is my experience. My understanding is my identity.
Edited fanciful version: My health is my wealth, not bars of gold. My knowledge is my experiences, not read books nor listened lectures. My understanding is my identity, not some reshaped imitations.
Young relationships are more unstable than young friendships.
More difficult to maintain, and an addition to an existing friendship.
Interests in relationship is a wonderful aspect. There are no "good site" in existence I would say.
Being parents, knowing what we know, we're not exactly promoting dating site for teenagers.
I would highly suggests advising the nephew that interests is what brings people together.
The interest of desiring to know what it is like to "date" isn't the most positive one. However, very natural of course.
What I mean is, whatever his hobbies are, whatever he likes doing, there's probably others out there whom are "not the most social person" either and enjoy those hobbies as well.
Instead of looking for someone to date, just look for more people to know, to share interest. Dating then would evolve from that naturally.
In the adult world, "dating" can be seen as just a quick first date of 3 hours to get to know one another from complete stranger. To decide if there will be a second date. Adults have better idea of what they're looking for, what to expect within a partner.
For two teenagers to undergo that scenario is a bit overwhelming and perhaps ludicrous.
Especially for this scenario, the nephew should continue to socialize, and dating will naturally be in that socialization. For it to be a goal, is for like an adult saying "I will now go find my one true love".
Be patience, youngsters are usually comparing themselves to their peer. "Every other couple have love, why am I missing it. It's so easy for everyone else." The reality is, it's easy for no one at the very essence of the matter.
The easier it is, the more unreal it is. The quicker it became, the faster it may be undone.
Most of us later in life will eventually realize that, time is precious.
Spending time being single, taking care of one self is already a heavy feat.
Thus, healthy adult relationships usually consist of partners whom already have their individual lives taken care of before they enter that next chapter of their life, aka "a relationship".
My my, have you stumble upon something "interesting"....
For this, will be, one of the funnest enliven design in which I have the luck of knowing... the broad spectrum of perspectives from others, and of course, ourselves...
The idea is simple.
You are given... papers of all possible textures, pens of all perceived colors, but only one glass bottle.
For this bottle... is special... for what you see, may only be ordinary glass, "essentials... cannot be foreseen with the eyes."
For you see, This bottle... when thrown to the sea... this bottle... will find its intended person... its intended recipient.
As if fairy-tales reign true.
If you were to write to your future one true love, your words will be heard, your feelings transparent.
If you were to write to the someone lost to our existence, your poetic words will find, what you cannot.
If you were to write to someone of the past, perhaps even yourself, your words will transcend time to do so.
Any recipient, any soul whom has ever been or ever will be... this bottle... is magic.
The vast material of papers and pens of all lustrous variety rest before you, on a grand desk with the sunset as filler light..
Idling on a wintergreen evening, cold breezes flows with oceans wave crashing upon the beach line, separating you from beyond..
Knowingly, that a message in a bottle could be send forth... will eventually reach...
You pick up a pen, position the paper, smilingly... confidently... fearfully... knowing your message will reach whom it is for...
Whom your words are intended for...
You begin... what is... a very special message... intimate...
@FangYuan Possess, learn, refine one's understanding of expectation. To expect once is common, to expect twice? Foolish.
“You should date a girl who reads.
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow and worn.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”
― Rosemarie Urquico
The overall truth is, just by making simple changes to your day, it will affect your body.
Even something as seemingly irrelevant such as stress can affect weight tremendously.
Too many variables to consider, which is why there is no definitive guide to how to lose weight, since losing weight is an effect of another goal. That goal may be to look better, however, to feel better is a better driver.
Too variable that we may be able to control is our eating habit and just taking a walk a day sometimes.
Dont' have to walk everyday, start at your own pace. Maybe once or twice a week. Next week, hey, you're out 4 days. who knows. Everyone have their own pace.
In comparison and to end this long post, any athlete will know that brute force will not triumph. There is much patience in building toward the goal. Starting runners will often only run little the first week, and gradually build to what will finally be the 5k marathon. In no way should they force any progress of that, as it could be detrimental to the body.
Looking to hear a voice of information without searching but asking.
Is just as terrible as lazily researching information without critical thinking and skepticism.
Utilize Google, formulate more descriptive questions that would answer more for yourself such as
"How are virus formed?"
"How does scientists decide upon the naming system of such said viruses?"
Cancer exist, death exist, you got medicine for that?
It took humanity decades upon decades to almost entirely eliminate polio from today's world.
Simply having vaccinations and cures isn't even close to the last step of total eradication.
@Surya-Mani-Deepak Every rejection will further progress your character. There is no "backward" per se. Every bad relationships should encourage your new definition of a good relationship.
Every rejection is a healthy choice from both party that the life together isn't a dream, it would be a reality that is unhealthy for one or both members.
Rejections may feel really harsh now. It will become bittersweet later on.
From younger perspective, I think rejections are really painful due to the thought that "I'm not wanted, desirable enough, good enough." For whom exactly? Is one not good enough for?
Let's imagine, we weren't rejected. We would just be in a relationship that we shouldn't be in, that we shouldn't strive for.
What we should strive for, hope for. Are relationships where the partner put toward effort, courageous enough to talk beyond the good times, relationships that peer beyond rejections but the inevitable heartbreak of "death part us".
Their ability to bullshit
That "dumb" was definitively synonymous for stupidity or foolishness.
Dumbness is inability or unwillingness to speak. Lame is inability to walk.
Dumb and lame comments stem from disabilities terminologies. #knowledge
@T-R-A-S-H all one has to do is simply look up at the true night sky.
these days, light pollution prevents that in significant amount of places.
see the beautiful wonders of the world as it is.
it is humans whom have influence negative upon the person.
if there is nothing special to be alive, there is no human special enough to keep them going.
the first person special enough to live for is themselves, if they feel unworthy, their worth should be in least self define.
if they self define themselves as unworthy, then so be it.
alas, the stars amongst all the galaxies does not care. yet they all exist anyway, not for our enjoyment, they just exist.
similarly but differently, majority of humans had a mother whom had carried them though 9 months average of life.
that alone should triumph as a being something to be alive.
The world will bully you, to go through life without any experiences of that is beyond humans, overall it is beyond fate.
The kids throw trash at you, you laugh in sense they have that much free time.
Earthquake knocks your house down, you laugh because what else can you do.
It's not so much about what happens as it is about how you perceive it.
If you see being bully as something to be lament about, that's lowbrow.
It's almost a blessing that's the biggest issue within a youngster life. Some social dynamic don't even exist within others.
If you're not enough for yourself, no one in the world could be enough for you.
All the stars couldn't entice you, when the mirror reflect an ugly truth.
When you're not enough, how could anyone desire you when you don't desire yourself.
It's just human, it's normal, although, eventually, you'll most likely grow out of it.
Rejoice, one day, you will be enough for yourself. The youngsters are so fortunate to have such free-time to think about such triviality, it's truly a privilege, especially now.
When you're enough for yourself, every single person is just that much more to your life.
When you're enough for yourself, the person you so long wish, you wouldn't need, however would love to have with you.
Right now though, changes don't happen overnight. Character takes time to manifest, simply reading simply truth won't amount to real characters. One day though, be patience, have patience for yourself mostly.
@NatalieNastyy Haha, well. Good news everyone. That's the wonderful thing about 'love', or relationships rather.
No words may define it, it is what it is by itself inherent. One may try to put words into it such as 'love, soulmate, best', to claim some sort of hierarchy. Some sort of rating system.
Every relationship is simply just is, the reality of it cannot be mended or deluded by words, each individual knows exactly what the relationship is to their own understanding.
Thus, young love may not understand the true essence of a relationships, for they are young, they know little of sacrifices, inevitable losses, compromises. They know little of life.
Those lucky fools. Haha. We all may have those times. Eventually though, we find less relationships not so much because we get older, our definition of whom is worthy of our love changes, matures. Redefined.
Rejoice all, for most of us will have great love in our life. It's usually the young ones whom are questioning it, whether it will happen to them.
@NatalieNastyy We all would like to be seen, as who we truly are to ourselves. For anyone to even remotely come close to that aspiration, they would need similar understanding of life. That is the rarity of true understanding.
The more you know, the less others may relate to you, however the more you may relate to everyone else.
The more you know, the less they will understand you, the more you'll understand them.
The more you know, the lesser amount of those whom can truly love you, although the ones whom does are truly shining stars.
@NatalieNastyy “The alchemist picked up a book that someone in the caravan had brought. Leafing through the pages, he found a story about Narcissus.
The alchemist knew the legend of Narcissus, a youth who knelt daily beside a lake to contemplate his own beauty. He was so fascinated by himself that, one morning, he fell into the lake and drowned. At the spot where he fell, a flower was born, which was called the narcissus.
But this was not how the author of the book ended the story.
He said that when Narcissus died, the goddesses of the forest appeared and found the lake, which had been fresh water, transformed into a lake of salty tears.
'Why do you weep?' the goddesses asked.
'I weep for Narcissus," the lake replied.
'Ah, it is no surprise that you weep for Narcissus,' they said, 'for though we always pursued him in the forest, you alone could contemplate his beauty close at hand.'
'But... was Narcissus beautiful?' the lake asked.
'Who better than you to know that?' the goddesses asked in wonder. 'After all, it was by your banks that he knelt each day to contemplate himself!'
The lake was silent for some time. Finally, it said:
'I weep for Narcissus, but I never noticed that Narcissus was beautiful. I weep because, each time he knelt beside my banks, I could see, in the depths of his eyes, my own beauty reflected.'
'What a lovely story,' the alchemist thought.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
“You should date a girl who reads.
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow and worn.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”
― Rosemarie Urquico
@xoyee The "puzzles" behind the "spiritual realms" are humans puzzles. They were humans designs, spoken by humans, prized by humans, conceptualized by humans.
Physics is as objective as it gets, the process of gaining new axioms foundation of knowledge is not subjectively driven.
It never aimed at any specific goal of dismissing divinity, rather to further answer our curiosity of the working world.
Words are just words. "Pastor able to heal someone who is near death" is just a story. One could be angry at this response, however, you just haven't witness enough deaths in your own lifetime yet to understand. If you were to empathize for all 100,000 people whom will die today, I wonder how you would feel about such statement.
"A day in the sight of God is like ten thousand years here on earth ( the physical )"
So what? I'm not of divinity, nor do I know how to raise to divinity of that caliber, and any "divinity" reached by past humans are divine in their thought, what good does that divinity do pass peace of mind and possible world peace?
For any humans whom think they can ascend to such a divine status in which they may heal every sick being, is hubris lacking prudence. Other fruitful effort have already helped out our specie tremendously, of which you won't ever know about the horror of "the iron lung".
Decades of research regarding Polio vaccine does do, humans are the proprietor.
If divinity or enlightenment was an aspect of a human, one of the top quality should be the ability to look past one's lifetime, about the future generations. About the reality of how long some task will take to be completed.
Saying that divinity have perceptions beyond human comprehension is not that enticing to some humans.
For we have already witnessed many genocide, beyond your youth, experienced many religions to understand others better, and dare not preach what we do not truly understand like laws of gospels.
"...the power lies in the spiritual realm."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chūnibyō
Middle-school second-year syndrome" or "eighth-grader syndrome", typically used to describe early teens who have delusions of grandeur, who so desperately want to stand out that they have convinced themselves they have hidden knowledge or secret powers.
So one could argue, that we should meditate all day. Nothing against that, everyone will follow the path they feel like will yield positive results for humanity.
Medicine have saved more lives than any enlightenment guru ever has, prevent lost lives more than any prospect. Vast numbers of researcher in the medicine field are doing good work.
Meanwhile, past religions sacrificed their first born to appease rain entities. In terms of results from intention of positive, science improves real physical lives, in physical terms, through physical means. No divinity, have ever done that for me, so.
Many many variables regarding physiology.
So just going to mention a favorite, which is "well-being".
From your age, you'll know that you "look better" and "feel better" if you got that full night sleep, if there's not much to be stressed about. Compare mornings where you feel sluggish to the ones where you're eyes opened ready for the day.
One can only work toward our well-being in variables we are able to control.
For example, if you need that extra hour of sleep or nap midday, you should allow yourself if possible. No phones or Netflix.
Something simple as the amount of times you smile and frown per day attribute to "wrinkles", not as direct. But one shouldn't have a "mad" face too often, "stressed" face, those muscles working and facial expression does refine the face toward one mannerism or another.
Although this cannot be helped in sense of if there are real impending worries, one needs to take care of it.
Besides well-being, eat well. Fruit, veggies, etc. Junk food and pizza yes, are terrible for the skins per se. You won't die from eating it, everyone is different and will react different per se, but man, every time I eat pizza, my skins is just. urgh.
Apologies for the long post.
I would just focus on well-being, and eating good first. Those two factors will drastically get you through. Before we had all these "face cream" and "nutritionist". How did people stay radiantly beautiful for so long? Their life was beautiful, and that reflected well with their smiles, which reflects well with their expressive beauty.
Rinse your face with water whenever you feel it getting oily. Which differs from person to person, and from environment to environment, etc etc. Tone down on make up as much as possible per se. Some will say it won't matter, anything on your skin matters. Your skin needs to be able to breathe.
I'm more for seasonal resolved, or bi-monthly.
Perspective of a yearly resolution further broken down to smaller sections allow easier keeping.
4x "This Spring, I'll work toward _____" instead of "This year, it's gonna be ______"
If there was a goal, in priority, it is simply to spend time well. One could laugh that time spent here isn't wise, it's good for me in terms of thought provoking and reflection to stand by or change my ideals.