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I always try to improve myself to be the "best me I can be". After doing this for so long I started asking myself "Who am I?" If I don't know myself how am I supposed to be a better me? Then I thought, there is no "me", only what I want to be and who I choose to be. From now on, I am going to be the person I want to be and make that who I am. I don't know who I am, I am going to make who I am.
What are your thoughts on who you are? Do you think we can create who we are? How are we supposed to know who we are? Do you agree with that I want to do or do you think creating ourselves cant be done?

@cjko like, 10 people 😂

@Saloniii I don’t have an enemy. I don’t think enemies can be created over the internet and if people do make enemies over the internet then they need to get out more 😂

@Brisbane-Paladin said in T-R-U-S-T I-S-S-U-E-S:

@TheGoldenMole at what point did you start developing the trust issues?

I don't actually know. I just know there was a time I didn't have them and somewhere along the line I got them bad

Is it trust issues with family, friends, partners or all of the above?

Not really family, some friends, and always partners

To try and address the issue, have you found out how long ago it started to develop? What triggered it, how severe is it?

I don't know when or why it happened, but I just always assume people are around me for the wrong reasons.

I won't lie, admittedly I too also have my trust issues. I think in all reality when it comes to overcoming the issue in mention, it takes time. Alot of time. You also need to talk to those who are close to you, to express the issue because they'd be able to understand and offer you their coping mechanisms.

Aside from partners, I've never fully explained to people how I feel about them and my lack of trust I have towards them. Maybe I will try that, thank you

@cjko big for me would probably be 50 or 60 people. I would only want 15 or less because I like small parties. I don’t like going to “parties” when half the people don’t know each other so everyone is in their own groups. I like smaller parties because then everyone converses with each other and it makes it fun, there’s real human connection in smaller parties. Also, there’s very few people I like enough to invite to a party so it would only be the 10 people I actually like enough to invite

@Bela-Hella being loved it a lot more easier as you don't have to do anything and the person will love you. However, I think to love someone can be a lot more fun, if they love you back that is...

@Karina-Kara I actually don't know. I can't remember an instance where I trusted someone and they betrayed me in a harsh way. So I don't know what triggered it and why I don't trust people

@cjko my dog, if it ever learns English I’m doomed !

I hit a bird with my car once, it was an accident but now I'm kind of traumatized and I drive exxxtra slow around birds and animals. Probably the worst thing I've done. What about you? What is your worst?

Being famous looks like it could be hard. Though for the amount of money they make their jobs typically seem easy as pie! Given the chance, would you want to be famous? If so, then what for? If not then why not?

Are you similar to your parents? In what way? Do you have their good traits or bad traits? Do you want to be more or less like them? How would you feel if you had a child that was just like you?

@Karina-Kara Generally, I don’t think punishment is necessary. I believe in positive reinforcements. I have a fairly big family, some of us were punished when did wrong, others just had positive reinforcements. I was one of the lucky ones that got positive reinforcements and as a result I was the most behave child with the best grades and a clean record. In school and in law. I now use positive reinforcements on my pets and they are very well behaved and obident. I think positive reinforcement is the best way to go because punishment can cause issues to a child. However, I have met people that claim that punishment is the only way their children will listen to them, I still disagree, but I also don’t know their children. So I can’t tell them what does and doesn’t work if I’m not there to try it and/or witness it

@Karina-Kara I ACTUALLY MET THE PERSON OF MY DREAMS IRL AND I FROZE AND ALL I SAID WAS “wow you’re so cute” AND I DIDNT EVEN MEAN TO SAY THAT IT JUST CAME OUT AND IT WAS SO EMBARRASSING
That’s my boo now though ;)

As we grow older we experience less joy, more stress, less imagination, more fear of reality, etc. We physically can't do as much, mentally cant think as creatively, and are emotionally closed off. Basically, all that is good slowly goes away as we age.
Knowing this Would You Rather...
have the mind of a joyful child
or
have the mind of a neutral/joyless adult

If you could create a planet any way you want, even if its impossible, how would your planet be?

@Lurker said in What do you think is important?:

@TheGoldenMole

1. Love
2. Respect
3. Intelligence
4. Attractiveness
5. Money
6. Fame
7. Power

Love over respect. What if the person you love doesn't respect you?

cut off all your toes
or
cut off all your hair ALL OF IT

We all have hidden talents.
Mine is being able to blow out candle fire with farts.
What is your talent? Please share

@alkal33 You can cut the canvas, or tear it, you can get creative and even add onto it.

@Randy_Butternubs we can see shadows, we can control them and they are clearly there. What I consider a shadow, you will also know as a shadow, as will someone from another country, background, ethnicity, etc. They might have a different word, but we all know it as a shadow.
Evil is different. What you call evil I might call kindness. What I call evil another person might consider good. I think that's what they meant by evil being a perspective. A shadow on the other hand isn't perspective, it isn't subjective, it is real. We can see it and name it.