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Hey bro, depression sucks - I’ve been there myself.

A couple things I’d like to say, are that even when you feel down, you will feel better again.

Also, it’s up to you to take action to change your life for the better and make it something you’re proud of.

even if life sucks now, you can do things to improve it, and it starts with your body/health - try working on yourself like having good hygiene, skin care, self help books and videos, eating healthy and drinking plenty of water, going to the gym/exercising - and keeping your room/house clean make such a difference to how you feel emotionally.

It sounds silly, but our brain is just a lump of meat that produces chemicals and having good habits will change those chemicals from ones that make you feel sad to ones that make you feel happy.

If you’re lonely, make your life one that people want to be apart of - no one is coming to save you, but if you save yourself - people will see the value in your actions and who you are.
If you let it beat you, then you may find people wary of forming a connection.

You got this and keep your head held high. We are all valuable on this earth and you will one day find your purpose and realise your potential - purpose is chosen, but you need to try things to see what you like so you can choose the right thing to say ‘I love this, and I have decided it is my purpose so I’ll focus my energy and time mastering this as it will bring me joy’. After some time - success will naturally follow.

Good luck and I hope things get better - some of this advice may not be what you want to hear but if you do everything on here you’ll never look back.

Also read the book atomic habits if you can.

@Bethany123 I know it can be frustrating and quite draining sometimes having to explain every little detail to a grown man, as it feels like they should care enough to understand on their own - but men are different beings to women and do struggle with things that may seem standard or basic. That’s why women say guys are dumb! They’ll change a car engine or build an house but have no clue when it comes to issues like this. Also Emotional intelligence is learned so he may be missing out on seemingly obvious signs if he isnt at the level you expect of him with that.
if you love him and see a future together, then it’s worth the effort and time to mend it - it will eventually get easier.

Relationships can be hard work at times as I’m sure you are aware, but also very beautiful and if you believe that he’s the one, then I guess you’ll stick it out until he gets it - as the saying goes, nothing worth having comes easy, and nothing that comes easy is worth having.

Hopefully the goods outweigh the bads overall and eventually, there will come a time where your communication as a couple will improve so much it will reach a point where it doesn’t feel so draining to discuss things as you’re both on the same page when it comes to each others needs, desires, goals and things that need work, and both of you will naturally understand each others communication styles and love languages and will be able to work in with one another without any second guessing. It’s like anything, practice makes perfect.

Be persistent with letting your needs and feelings be understood yet be patient and kind in the way you explain it as he may not understand until you’ve said it in a way that resonates with him, which can take multiple tries of saying the same thing differently.

He may struggle with communication too so while you are communicating your side of things, ask him about anything that may be troubling him and see if you can both go on a journey of improvement as a team which will bring you closer and serve as a bonding experience of sorts.

Sorry if I’ve rambled on, I’ve just been in a similar situation and I believe this issue is easily fixed with patience, and calm conversation, and understanding of each other.

You’ve got this and good luck, I wish you both all the best.