@substitute66 wow! Thank you for your advice! I really appreciate it. It's amazing how much we think people really care about us like that...especially when they have their own problems to worry about. But I guess because my family and his family were so happy for us at the wedding and we don't have any issue with our in laws, it's like "why mess up a good thing?" But it's killing me how much I want to be touched and loved like I know I should be, as Im sure he wants the same affection. But I have no desire to give it to him. Physically he is very attractive, slim, and good teeth. He has a great career and is not abusive with words or actions. But I'm just not sexually connected to him and I never was. I looked only for what I thought was more important things when I decided to marry him. My question to you is if you're happy at home, what brings you to this site?