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See, I love my body a little differently than yours. I love it by putting warm double-chocolate cookies and cold milkshakes into it. If I took a picture of the inside, my intestines would be in the shape of a heart. (the outside is "round" like a heart to represent that it is loved from the inside out)

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@Katherinee haha I guessed the MF part, but do you mean to make a whole new topic from scratch anytime we ask someone to the Valentines donce?

@TinBelle A song from that is called I Want to Be Happy >

@Katherinee said in TWS Valentines (reminder):

MF

What's a MF topic mean for us newbies?

@ChainedRebel Well I'm just asking out body parts from each person so I'm thinkin..... (carry the 1, minus the 3... one second here) Yup, that's 19 separate posts. I'm building my perfect match. :)

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@cutie-cat Congratulations! And good strategy!

@TinBelle I will bring the catnip corsage :heart_eyes_cat:

@johngds4 There is no answer to this. Nobody can truly be EXACTLY in your shoes and what you feel is what you feel. I can tell you that you being able to express this so well into words is light years beyond most men and has already helped you with the healing process by recognizing it. You nailed it. It's unfair & it sucks, but that is honestly life. What you can do is realize that this world offers something that you really connected with and "cache" this experience into the "death bed memory banks" for the highlight reel at the end of life. You don't meet many unicorns in your lifetime. I'm an old man now and I can tell you that I still have not forgotten about the ballet dancer I met on a ski trip who I spent two awesome hours with just sitting on the floor of a hotel hallway because she was locked out of her room waiting for her parents. Maybe it was because I was the best version of myself in that moment and said everything right and wished every interaction could be that smooth in life. Maybe it was something chemical inside her that spoke to something chemical inside me like the perfect energy or magnetism. Maybe it's because neither of us saw it coming or planned it. And, of course, it's the old human nature of wanting what we can't have when it's over. That drives us all nuts. She did the same to me. Wouldn't even answer my calls until her father told me she's a busy girl and to leave her alone. It ruined the specialness and made me question if the moment was authentic or not. But I KNOW it was. And I know I made an impact on her too. I could see it & sense it just like you see it and sense it. The easy answer for you is there will be others. Sure, you'll compare them to her for awhile and they won't be her, but they will offer other traits that make you forget about her bit by bit over time. The important thing is you got "out there". You took a bite of real life. You're 'feeling' it. Good or toxic feelings are ultimately your choice because you can ONLY control how you feel. So you can choose to take the high road and "delete" the ending. That's what I have done over time. Now, all I remember is the way she looked at me like she was melting with every word out of my mouth and how hard I made her laugh. I remember the dimples and then the serious sideways look she'd give me after the laugh. A look that said she wishes she could pack me up in her suitcase and take me with her. And that's ALL I need to remember in the end and the same goes for you. You're going to have so many memories in the life that you need to go back and edit and make them fit you. It's a survival technique that works. That's my two cents. And good for you for this experience. It's very close to as good as it gets in life so don't block it out just because she flaked after. Edit that sh1t out. haha

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@Katherinee Now THAT should have been the line from Tom Cruise's movie.... "you had me at whoore & sluut..."

@Lurker Agreed. We need to open up the forum to our pets. This "only humans" allowed thing is bullsh1t. ;^)

Real Love is not supposed to be "pain" It's supposed to feel like a relief. Like you finally found your person and you can rest and the universe makes sense now.

So obviously, you have lost the one you love. Then, that makes a LOT of sense. But I wouldn't call that love anymore. It's simply defined as "heartbreak".

Trying to become perfect for someone is the opposite of real love. Real love accepts you for EXACTLY who you are and loves the things that you don't even like about yourself. Real love fixes your insecurities and makes you feel WHOLE and alive.

Hopefully that helps a tad bit more with the confusion. You'll know when it matches these things. Real love heals. It doesn't destroy. Real love is natural and NEVER forced.

Anything that destroys or is forced is NOT love. Of course there can be pain from real love if you lose a loved one, but even then you are left with a TRUE peace for having found something so special in this world.

@johngds4 That's ALL we got in the very end man. Just fragments of memories. Some are big regrets and some our "treasures". As my Grandad said to me when he was at the end, nobody looks back on life and says "I should have worked more often". It's always the little, special moments that stand out that we remember the most. The rest is just a blur.