Posts made by A.le

@bushmurry thanks I'll check that out 😊

@ragnar-lothbrok oh I do open up and try to make him feel relaxed...believe me I'm pro communication and honesty but I just got to the conclusion that maybe he's just not as 'explorer' as I am when it comes to sex...which is a shame coz he's really good and I enjoy making love and everything we do, I just wish for that extra sparkle

@bushmurry that's good, I'd love to have a relationship as open...I do share my secrets but he doesn't respond... I mean he doesn't mind (this is what he tells me), but he doesn't have the same desires, so that makes it difficult for me to "explore options"...He would feel awkward if he had to share me with someone else, even if it's just virtually. I guess with time we'll maybe find a way, I just have to be strong and patient.
@Lucifer_ When I said "innocently" I meant I've never actually got "physical" with anyone, but I did get close...

@bushmurry I do flirt innocently when I'm out (not with him of course), and I did get close to regrettable actions... But I do feel wrong, even if I've never done anything disrespectful to him I think... How did you break it up to yr partner? And how did she react to you flirting online? Does she know everything you do when flirting?

@bushmurry well it's actually something I haven't even started, I've been thinking about this idea for a while and thought it could be a good compromise, as it wouldn't be physical or emotional (well just superficially) and that wouldn't mean I'll keep it secret forever....or maybe it might help me in becoming more "understanding" of my partner's feelings ...who knows? I just know that I love him but I know I have some needs to satisfy if I don't want to go crazy...

@lucifer_ thanks for your words ☺ I'm scared of fucking up our relationship, but I need more sexually and can't feel like a nympho for the rest of my life... I'm gonna end up cheating on him for sure if I don't find a way to make this work.

@lucifer_ we do use toys and did try role play... sex in different places (like parks or other public places, I actually love that), would like to try clubs but I guess I'm scared it might make things worse...oh and when I mentioned threesome I said we could try ffm first to see how we both feel about that...Shit, I feel like there's something wrong with me!

@lucifer_ I did talk to him about how to spice up our relationship. I've always been very open minded, curious and creative when it comes with sexual relationships, but I'm worried to push the limits and make him feel like he's forced to do something he doesn't really want... I told him in the past maybe to try a threesome or going to a swing club (it would embarass me as well but excite me also)...things like that...he said "yes...maybe..." wasn't too convinced, I feel bad insisting so I just did not mention again

@khaleezi91 I did talk to him... we've been together for many years and sex is great and I'm happy with him, really...but sometimes I feel like the need of being desired and have sexual attention and when I find myself kinda flirting with random man I realise that is because I need more...and It makes me feel bad coz would never wanna hurt him...

@khaleezi91 well it's kinda complicated...I love him but I have some sexual needs he can't satisfy fully...I never cheated on him and hopefully never will but I need something more sexually that he can't give me right now...I feel bad thinking about it believe me, but what can I do?

I don't think it's cheating...it depends on the circumstances really... I would like to find someone to sext with, but don't feel like it would be cheating on my man...maybe I'm wrong