@Wedo How long has she been your friend? Most of the time you know if someone is gay or straight if you’ve been friends for any length of time. If you believe she is straight, then you shouldn’t take precious time away from yourself hoping that one day she will change. Life is too short! And there is plenty of lesbians to get to know and appreciate you for you. If she really is a good friend, it should not matter if you are a lesbian. However, we can’t do anything about how someone feels about these matters. You should prepare yourself in advance for whatever reaction you receive when you do tell her. And I believe you will tell her. Because right now the relationship is under false pretenses even if it did not start out that way. I do wish you well & hope everything turns out OK for both of you.