@Karina-Kara said in My family is hiding something from me . . .:

My mother once told me not too many months ago that a time will come were "i will be old enough to know about certain topics". And to be blunt; My family does have some secrets that are not always pleasent to hear.
But nothing out of the ordinary.

Every family and kin has that.

Yet somehow, even before that conversation has happend (and that talk did not end nicely from my part), i have always had the assumption that my family hides some sort of uncomfortable truth from and about me.

"To keep me safe" as they would probably declare it if i will be able to find it out on my own.

Of course, asking here for consulting is not the brightest choice i have made in my life, but what else can i do?
My mother (the only family member that i am currently and willingly talking with) always refused such accusations.
Strangely, deep down i have always felt "adopted" and not belonging to this family. Even as a child.
That might very well be the reason why i was never be able to "bond" with them. Because i may have had a different family to begin with.
Who knows . . .

What are your thoughts on this delicate matter?
Asking my mother further questions is futile. And talking with the other family members is out of option.

Here is a fun fact about her:
She does not even remember tragic events happening.
Because that is how she copes with such happenings.

There is a simple solution to figure out if you're adopted: In germany you have the law behind you, you have the right to know your biological parents, even sperm donors. Just ask the relevant authorities (no experience with that tho).