Rape, murder, war.
They all have one thing in common. Men.
Aggression, violence, ambition unchecked by conscience -- all the stuff of toxic masculinity, right?
And, the solution is obvious:
make men less toxic.
Make men less masculine.
Make men more like women.
But this way of thinking is not only wrong, it’s dangerous. Here’s why:
When you try to make men more like women, you don’t get less toxic masculinity, you get more.
Why? you may ask
Because bad men don’t become good when they stop being men; they become good when they stop being bad.
Aggression, violence, and unbridled ambition can’t be eliminated from the male psyche. They are the male energy which drives them, just like woman have their feminine energy, so they can only be harnessed.
And when they are harnessed, they are tools for good, not for harm. The same masculine traits that bring destruction also defeat tyranny. The traits that foster greed also build economies. The traits that drive men to take foolish risks also drive men to take heroic risks.
The answer to toxic masculinity isn’t less masculinity; it’s better masculinity.
It’s a young man opening the door for a girl on their first date.
It’s a father working long hours to provide for his family.
It’s a soldier risking his life to defend his country.
and the examples can be seen when you just look at your brothers or fathers.
The growing problem in today’s society isn’t that men are too masculine, it’s that they’re not masculine enough.
When men embrace their masculinity in a way that is healthy and productive, they are leaders, warriors and heroes.
When they deny their masculinity, they run away from responsibilities, leaving destruction and despair in their wake.
The consequences can be seen everywhere:
- One in four fathers now lives apart from his children.
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes – 5 times the average.
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
- 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average.
- 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average.
- 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average.
THE STUDY WHERE I TOOK THE DATA FROM
Yet, the current trend is to feminize young men starts at the earliest ages.
- In the school classroom boys are invariably “the problem.”
- We tell young men that their intrinsic desire to compete is wrong. Everybody gets a trophy
- we label them as born rapists
Girl behavior is the gold standard in schools and Boys are treated like defective girls.
This anti-male tilt continues on through higher education, where the ideal girl behavior is favored by the professors.
It has not only created millions of tentative men, but unhappy women, and confused boys and girls too.
Here’s a secret for yall:
women want 'real' men, unless theyre lesbians, then thats another story;
men they can count on and, yes, look up to.
and No amount of feminist theory will change that. I don’t know any woman yet, who is attracted to a passive man.
Everyone, I know wants a strong, responsible man and that’s not a consequence of a social construct or cultural pressure—it’s innate.
The devaluation of masculinity won’t end well because feminine-passive men don’t stop evil.
Passive men don’t defend, protect or provide.
Passive men don’t lead.
Passive men don’t do the things we have always needed men to do for society to thrive.
In his book The Abolition of Man, English social philosopher C.S. Lewis writes about this problem.
He describes the tension between cerebral man and visceral man.
Lewis explains, "By his intellect, man is mere spirit and by his appetite mere animal.”
We need both.
Take away one, and you’re left with a man who’s either weak or is wicked.
And in a world of wickedness, weak men are nothing more than enablers of wicked men.
Rape, murder, war.
They all have one thing in common: Bad men who do the raping, murdering, and warring;
and weak men who won’t stop them.
We need good men who will stop the bad in us.
It’s not masculinity that’s toxic.
It’s the lack of it.