@lego-batman Of course I don't speak for all lesbians, but I have been one my whole life.
I only use condoms while using a strap on/any toy because during intercourse we may both use it, and disinfecting every time we swap might kill the mood a bit.. lol
Or when going from vaginal to anål intercourse, that way you don't cross contaminate or get gross butthole bacteria all up in the ever so lovely vagina. = )
Personally, I don't keep condoms incase I turn straight....
Anyway-- condoms just in case, for when things get hot and heavy. But for sure got to boil and disinfect afterwards.
Because like you said, those little fuckers are unreliable as shit.