I had made up my mind. I told my boyfriend of many years it wasnt working. We went on a break and then eventually just.. fully broke up.

I've started a thing with someone else though.. there is no name for it. We have admitted to liking each other and hug/kiss when together but there are no labels yet. It's all very new.

But my ex is actually trying to change things. He took all the problems we had whilst together and has been slowly trying to make them better. Not that I wanted to change him, they were things like not listening to me. And he is trying to think more about things. And he gave me a letter with all of this heartfelt emotions saying all the right things and actually fighting for me, even when there was no hope left for us.

What do I do?

I broke up with my partner during lockdown. There were lots of issues and I couldn't deal. But previous to that we have been together for years and I love him.

However since then, I got drunk and my housemate and I got.. frisky. My ex/partner doesn't know about this and we keep having long heart to hearts about how to make it work. This is making my feel so guilty because I cant tell him, but also because I dont think I deserve his attempts to reconcile.

And ever since we broke up my more flirty, hedonistic side has come out and I keep making decisions and changing my mind on what I actually want.

Side note, Its also exposed a very strong crush on my housemate, which seems to be reciprocated but it's been so long since I was last single that I'm not sure what's normal, what's playing hard to get or anything.

Please help. I like them both and they both fill my needs in very different ways what should I do?