Does it consider as cheating if u have a partner and u love him so much but u sext with strangers online

[A.le]

@khaleezi91 I did talk to him... we've been together for many years and sex is great and I'm happy with him, really...but sometimes I feel like the need of being desired and have sexual attention and when I find myself kinda flirting with random man I realise that is because I need more...and It makes me feel bad coz would never wanna hurt him...

[A.le]

@lucifer_ I did talk to him about how to spice up our relationship. I've always been very open minded, curious and creative when it comes with sexual relationships, but I'm worried to push the limits and make him feel like he's forced to do something he doesn't really want... I told him in the past maybe to try a threesome or going to a swing club (it would embarass me as well but excite me also)...things like that...he said "yes...maybe..." wasn't too convinced, I feel bad insisting so I just did not mention again

[Lucifer]

@a-le
Well if he is a shy guy,
Start small use toys, try role playing, then move to the biggies like the club and unless you are going to bring a girl over never ask a guy about threesome.

[A.le]

@lucifer_ we do use toys and did try role play... sex in different places (like parks or other public places, I actually love that), would like to try clubs but I guess I'm scared it might make things worse...oh and when I mentioned threesome I said we could try ffm first to see how we both feel about that...Shit, I feel like there's something wrong with me!

[Lucifer]

@a-le Nothing's wrong with you, you are an explorer he is ok with what he has.
Keep pushing a little bit or try a professional consultant, you love him, he loves you,
both want it to last you need to find something that satisfies both.

[A.le]

@lucifer_ thanks for your words I'm scared of fucking up our relationship, but I need more sexually and can't feel like a nympho for the rest of my life... I'm gonna end up cheating on him for sure if I don't find a way to make this work.

[Lucifer]

@a-le its not just your onus, he has to step up too.
if he doesn't want to try anything get him to go to a professional at least.
You cant spend your life unsatisfied or relationship might will get bitter.

[one]

According to me it's not cheating do whatever you want to do man/women..!

[Lucifer]

@one Bro how would you feel if your gf sexted with another random idiot ?

[one]

@lucifer_ no she don't caz I make her fully satisfy she's satisfied by me.. it's going private bro wat r u doing

[Lucifer]

@one you are one hard person to figure out man!

[one]

@dee16 ther is nothing exists like boundaries woundries do whatever you want to do..!

[one]

@lucifer_ why bro

[Lucifer]

@one Nothing bro!
You are a very unique species!
Just keep it up!
.

[one]

@lucifer_ damn I'm just kidding bro not a serious statement of mine that was..!

[Bushmurry]

I don't think there is a simple answer to this, everyone is different. I guess the real question is, is it something you want to stop? And if not, do you explain it to him or keep it secret? Your partner does not need to know everything about you... you will be able to judge better than anyone here if it will affect your relationship. Good luck!

[A.le]

@bushmurry well it's actually something I haven't even started, I've been thinking about this idea for a while and thought it could be a good compromise, as it wouldn't be physical or emotional (well just superficially) and that wouldn't mean I'll keep it secret forever....or maybe it might help me in becoming more "understanding" of my partner's feelings ...who knows? I just know that I love him but I know I have some needs to satisfy if I don't want to go crazy...

[Bushmurry]

@a-le I am getting help on my relationship as well. Sometimes we can be scared to show all of ourselves to our partner for various reasons. Sometimes our partners can surprise us when we challenge their capacity to understand our feelings. We always assume the worst...
I feel the need to flirt too, but there are no women in the town I live in I want to flirt with. So I go online. I understand wanting to feel desired by other people, I have no want to leave my partner either. My partner does not mind me flirting or chatting on cam sites, maybe there is a way to keep this secret or maybe there is a way to get what you're needing with permission? Wish I could help more

[A.le]

@bushmurry I do flirt innocently when I'm out (not with him of course), and I did get close to regrettable actions... But I do feel wrong, even if I've never done anything disrespectful to him I think... How did you break it up to yr partner? And how did she react to you flirting online? Does she know everything you do when flirting?

[Lucifer]

Yes @Bushmurry how did she react?
P.S: You cannot hide anything for a lifetime, sooner or later the truth finds its way out.
P.P.S: Secrets destroy relationships.