So. I'm reading Tamsin by Peter S. Beagle and the main character seems like she doesn't believe in ghosts even tho~ so many ghosty things. So.. what is you're tipping point? At which point to you go.. oh, ok.. ghost. Or do you keep finding reasons to justify weird haunted house..stuff?
Cold rooms? Ghost?
Voices in an other room?
Literal ghost cat visitation?
Ghosts... do you?
Agree. Relationships are made of many things. Touch is a part of it, kind of. And that ... inclination? requirement that touch = fucking = sexual attraction is a no go. Humanity is/could be so much more. ... Anyway.
I mean... I agree... kind of. Love is love is not necessarily sex. AND Maybe I've drank one glass too much but.. let's respect each other and stop touching where it seems otherwise expected... and enjoy closeness without sexuality. Just affection and friendship.
Still. Love has many expressions. So it's uncool for me to demand everybody feel the same way I feel. As long as there is consent and hopefully pleasure? then... idk.
Life sucks and then we die. I mean, you do what you need to do, but it won't matter after you die because.. you'll be dead. Live or don't, it's not easy and it's not fun. You just keep on keeping on. Still. You're death might mean more than you know. Or not. Idk. I myself have a child and I wait out every day because I now my s00000e would be so hard for him. So. I wait. Do what you have to do.. but consider waiting it out...
@Allison OMG. Yeah, no one wants non-vag or penis relationships? Crack a fucking book. How boring to think relationships encompass nothing more than genitals rubbing against each other.
That excludes a bunch of retiring or ace people. Or maybe even otherwise occupied people. .. is it still romance if you don't fuck? Can you love without mashing genitals together? Can you find another way to be intimate and comforting? Sex can be important or not.. but to discard distance-relationships as impossible.. seems silly in light of how distant many people are and how varied love and affection can be.
I mean, maybe. What if you meet no new people? What if you don't have a spark with other persons? You can have a relationship that isn't based on weird crushes and just enjoy being apart from a loving partner. Cheating isn't based on fucking or romance, it's based on what the cheater is missing from the initial relationship (I think) so as long as you're open, then there is less opportunity to miss out. Otoh, if you aren't happy, then talk about it. Physicality is important to a lot of people, so talk it out.
@Dexter-Adams I mean, is the boy in question human? 'cause humans are dorks.
And you're right! Human males aren't generally socialized to value or be good at social/emotional intelligence. But still, they're not stupid. Humans, even male humans (JOKE) can figure it out. :)
I get you're being disingenuous to brag that you are "not like other boys" but just be the kindness and compassion you want to see in "other boys."
Go you~!
@Dexter-Adams I mean, is the boy in question human? 'cause humans are dorks.
And you're right! Human males aren't generally socialized to value or be good at social/emotional intelligence. But still, they're not stupid. Humans, even male humans (JOKE) can figure it out. :)
I get you're being disingenuous to brag that you are "not like other boys" but just be the kindness and compassion you want to see in "other boys."
Go you~!
So. I'm reading Tamsin by Peter S. Beagle and the main character seems like she doesn't believe in ghosts even tho~ so many ghosty things. So.. what is you're tipping point? At which point to you go.. oh, ok.. ghost. Or do you keep finding reasons to justify weird haunted house..stuff?
Cold rooms? Ghost?
Voices in an other room?
Literal ghost cat visitation?
Ghosts... do you?
I mean... I agree... kind of. Love is love is not necessarily sex. AND Maybe I've drank one glass too much but.. let's respect each other and stop touching where it seems otherwise expected... and enjoy closeness without sexuality. Just affection and friendship.
Still. Love has many expressions. So it's uncool for me to demand everybody feel the same way I feel. As long as there is consent and hopefully pleasure? then... idk.
Life sucks and then we die. I mean, you do what you need to do, but it won't matter after you die because.. you'll be dead. Live or don't, it's not easy and it's not fun. You just keep on keeping on. Still. You're death might mean more than you know. Or not. Idk. I myself have a child and I wait out every day because I now my s00000e would be so hard for him. So. I wait. Do what you have to do.. but consider waiting it out...
Agree. Relationships are made of many things. Touch is a part of it, kind of. And that ... inclination? requirement that touch = fucking = sexual attraction is a no go. Humanity is/could be so much more. ... Anyway.
@Allison OMG. Yeah, no one wants non-vag or penis relationships? Crack a fucking book. How boring to think relationships encompass nothing more than genitals rubbing against each other.
That excludes a bunch of retiring or ace people. Or maybe even otherwise occupied people. .. is it still romance if you don't fuck? Can you love without mashing genitals together? Can you find another way to be intimate and comforting? Sex can be important or not.. but to discard distance-relationships as impossible.. seems silly in light of how distant many people are and how varied love and affection can be.
I mean, maybe. What if you meet no new people? What if you don't have a spark with other persons? You can have a relationship that isn't based on weird crushes and just enjoy being apart from a loving partner. Cheating isn't based on fucking or romance, it's based on what the cheater is missing from the initial relationship (I think) so as long as you're open, then there is less opportunity to miss out. Otoh, if you aren't happy, then talk about it. Physicality is important to a lot of people, so talk it out.