The worst day of loveing someone is the day that you lose them..
@Rissa_TheBest An Elena Gilbert quote that was further expanded on by Dr Who
"It’s funny. The day you lose someone isn’t the worst - at least you’ve got something to do. It’s all the days they stay dead."
Angelina Jolie said about the death of her mother : "You don’t get over the death of your mother — I’m not sure I really want to — but you do get through it."
I wont sugarcoat and say even after a long time it will not hurt less .... but it will eventually hurt less often.
In my experience, you don't really do anything special or different to cope, you just do. It's cliche, but you just keep living and putting one foot in front of the other. Everyone says time heals, but it doesn't really. It just makes you forget more often.
Life can be good again, just in a different way.
Now coming to your emotional outbursts :
There is no 'right' technique. Each person does it in their particular way.
One important thing is self-acceptance. You feel what you feel, at that moment, and it's ok.
You will feel """unacceptable""" or """unseemly""" emotions at the most random of times.
Be gentle with yourself about that.
You are loved, you aren't alone, and (in case you need reminding) it's not your fault. HUG