Social anxiety...just a personal rant for myself.

[A Former User]

@MERY-EM Suree

[LAALIGROIYKLR]

I personally dig when people come off their perfect status and share their thoughts and insecurities. I can understand that initiating conversations can be scary as I had my fair share of it for a while as well. I doubt that anyone could just come up with a solution for this, but yourself. Yet it is done through wisdom, through knowledge, experiences, hence words like "just be confident"/"just don't care" simply don't work. But I will try to leave you with the insight or, at least, a scent of what made me reckless regarding this. I've always been an advocate of the "what you practice, you get good at at" principle. So, in order to overcome what I feared the most, I had to embrace it. Obviously, I did not start by just jumping into crowds and yelling - I am not that much of a masochist, but rather baby steps: challenge yourself, start an unwanted conversation. Don't let your fight-or-flight response take over your decision, but rather take into account that you're ultimately self-determining. Don't take a bad conversation as being the average, choose to talk to the people you relate to. To end with a happier tone as you yourself did, I am glad that you're attempting to get over it, and even this post, exposing your frame of mind, is a big step, so I am optimistic that you will eventually succeed.

P.S: You see your over(thinking + feeling) as being a nuisance, but it is not entirely the case. Yes, it sucks to invest a lot of yourself into small things, into your image, but it makes you more humane, more aware of what goes around you. Now I am not trying to contradict everything I've just said, but do not give up on how you truly feel for the sake of being thick-skinned in each and every aspect.

[MERY EM]

@LizaJalebi can we chat. i could'nt send u a msg

[A Former User]

@Spoofer Haha thanksss Spoofer. I will try to take more baby steps and not be so harsh on myself if some things go wrong along the way, like a bad conversation, and deem it all as part of the process. :) you're right about the practice makes perfect part, and how I am more humane for caring so much!

[sarah_the_magpie]

@LizaJalebi
it's fine! everyone has their insecurities, and knowing precisely what they are makes it so much easier to deal with them.

bullying is a terrible thing indeed, it can really shatter your sense of self-worth. schools are toxic environments for shy kids in general tbh
healing those scars you have is a long process, but you've made good progress already. you seem to have a lovely personality, so it's definitely gonna be worth the effort :) you'll make it!

[A Former User]

@sarah_the_magpie Thank you 🥺

[A Former User]

@LizaJalebi
I appreciate your honesty, and it shows a lot of strength being able to be honest and admit you deal with this. Proud of you!! I also deal with some social anxiety (along with depression.. and adhd) so if you want to talk to someone else who drives themselves crazy over meaningless stuff, I'm all ears.

[A Former User]

@Unicorny Aw thanks, and I do hope you're dealing with those things well <3

[sup]

Im happy you wrote about this! Im the kinda person whos excellent at giving "obvious" advice so I'm not really in a position to advise you anything or even talk about it. Well, I'm sure you don't even need it. Stay strong! You're a cool and fun girl my babitaji.

[A Former User]

@sup Ayee you can feel free to say anything anyway. Tysm Bhaaga 😂💀

[A Former User]

stop going outside