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Can You Give Me Advice
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I'm nice, many people like me, and I know many people I can turn to for any reason and talk about anything with. Thing is, I don't want to. When around people I immediately want them gone and their presence bores me. There are very very very few people I can enjoy myself around, but even from time to time I find myself with them and wanting something more, and I don't know what it is. I'm a fairly talkative person. If people are around me, I will talk to them and make good conversations and they will quickly see me as a friend. Though, I hardly see anyone as a friend. I've conversed over the internet, I talk to many people irl almost every day, yet still no one seems to interest me for long aside from the small group of friends I already have and their entertainment can only go so far. Is there something wrong with me? Is there a reason that other peoples company makes me feel so indifferent? I want to be able to enjoy myself when around other people, I want to make real friends that I will actually consider a friend and not just them calling me a friend. Does anyone else relate to this problem? Can anyone offer a solution?
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Yes
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Not sure if I can find a solution for that as I often struggle with that myself...
But because of that reasons I tend to close myself / distance myself from ppl in time so it makes my circle of friends real small... And it's also the same with love / emotional bounds...
I often feel like they don't give me what I am looking for and that's why they end up falling behind in my interest. It feels pretty cold and sad but that's how I feel as well. -
@TheGoldenMole
This needs no solution.
Youโre not Special.
There are many who are like this.
Iโm not one of them.
Be what you are.
Unless youโre a psychopath. -
Um there could alot of reasons for that. First it could be a physiological thing there are many people who doesnt really find themselves comfortable around other people. Or the 2 nd the friends u have arent really people u can trust um u can see that they call u friend but maybe they arent really someone u can rely on blindly so well idk i dont really know a solution to that i recommend u to think twice about ur friends and visit a physiologist .
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Hey! We're in the same current.. I have my levels of friendship tho. My social skills will depend on who am I with. Overall, I can initate a good conversation IRL and people will start to feel comfortable with me. I just can't stand fake people.. you can read it on their eyes and their gestures. There's nothing wrong in limiting people to discover the deeper-than-the-sea- floor-you, they have to gain your trust to go over to that fortress you built for yourself. I believe in quality > quantity type of friendships, I don't need a lot of friends. I'll be glad to have one truest friend for the rest of my life :)
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@Karina-Kara yes what?
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@TheGoldenMole
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@Lurker said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Not sure if I can find a solution for that as I often struggle with that myself...
But because of that reasons I tend to close myself / distance myself from ppl in time so it makes my circle of friends real small... And it's also the same with love / emotional bounds...I donโt like cutting people off from me. I still talk and hang out with people, Iโm just indifferent while doing it, Iโd rather that than not even try.
I often feel like they don't give me what I am looking for and that's why they end up falling behind in my interest. It feels pretty cold and sad but that's how I feel as well.
Do you know what youโre looking for?
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@Wolfie_11 I didnโt say I was special, but since you said Iโm not maybe I should include that I am. Though it is irrelevant because you are too, as is everyone else. If you think otherwise then you should think again
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@ayetofi said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Um there could alot of reasons for that. First it could be a physiological thing there are many people who doesnt really find themselves comfortable around other people.
I feel fine around other people. I just lack any feeling towards them I guess?
Or the 2 nd the friends u have arent really people u can trust um u can see that they call u friend but maybe they arent really someone u can rely on blindly so well idk i dont really know a solution to that i recommend u to think twice about ur friends and visit a physiologist .
Yeah, a lot of people call me their friend and I donโt even trust them like that ๐ but there are a few people that I do consider friends and I know I can trust them. Perhaps it is trust, and maybe itโs trusting is the only way I can make friends :shrug:
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@TheGoldenMole
Never said Iโm special.
Iโm just different to you.
And Iโm not irrelevant, neither are you.
On second thought, I believe yes, weโre all special in our own mind and way indeed, unless youโve a twin. I thought again, and then Iโm saying. Maybe youโll see me build a space travel portal with a range of several galaxies and then you shall believe me. Till then, youโre free to assume my irrelevance. :) -
@cjko Maybe it is that too. There are times when I talk to someone and Iโm thinking โthis person is total bullshitโ๐ maybe we can just see through the fake, and if we donโt want it then we cant bond with it. I also believe in quality over quantity, thatโs why I cherish the very few friends I have
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@TheGoldenMole yeah right.. who wants to get along with a fake friend ? No one, right? I only have few friends whom I can trust ..
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@Wolfie_11 I didnโt say youโre irrelevant ๐ if anything I said youโre relevant because I called you special. I said the need to point it out is irrelevant, not you. I donโt consider anyone โirrelevantโ
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@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
I donโt like cutting people off from me. I still talk and hang out with people, Iโm just indifferent while doing it, Iโd rather that than not even try.
I don't like to cut ppl off, but at some point it just feels void and pointless to keep em so I just let go so I can preserve some of my sanity. It's not a good feeling when you feel you give more then you get.
@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Do you know what youโre looking for?
I do, but what I'm looking for might be too farfetched! :joy:
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@Lurker said in Can You Give Me Advice:
@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
I donโt like cutting people off from me. I still talk and hang out with people, Iโm just indifferent while doing it, Iโd rather that than not even try.
I don't like to cut ppl off, but at some point it just feels void and pointless to keep em so I just let go so I can preserve some of my sanity. It's not a good feeling when you feel you give more then you get.
I understand that. Sometimes an intire conversation can seem pointless ๐
@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Do you know what youโre looking for?
I do, but what I'm looking for might be too farfetched! :joy:
Hopefully not or else you may never find what youโre looking for ๐
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@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
@Wolfie_11 I didnโt say youโre irrelevant ๐ if anything I said youโre relevant because I called you special. I said the need to point it out is irrelevant, not you. I donโt consider anyone โirrelevantโ
Damn. I misunderstood it then.
Then our point is the same lol
Iโm still gonna build that portal though :) -
@cjko but now I wonder if fake friends want fake friends or if they still want real friends? If they want real friends then why are they fake?๐ค
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@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Hopefully not or else you may never find what youโre looking for
Farfetched isn't impossible tho I just gotta keep trying and it will eventually show up! :D
@Wolfie_11 said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Iโm still gonna build that portal though
Please do, I will use it so freaking often and will forever be grateful to you :joy: