Friends are something that an average person needs. Humans are just made that way. But I think it's not correct to think that friends can fix everything, as well as that friends will stay in your life forever. Throughout life you will meet dozens of people and make many friends. But only one or two out of hundreds will be something you may call a "real friend". That's if you are lucky enough to meed someone with similar mindset and values that you have. People you call 'friends' will walk out of your life for different reasons (they may be insignificant or important) and will stay with you for different amounts of time. That's why I think that it's better if you put yourself/your life/feelings first most of the times when it comes to your friends. You can stay in a really good relationship with them even if you don't always put them first or give all of yourself into these relationships. Because each one of us have their own lifes to take care of. Those people who will want to stay with you and will understand you/love you - will stay. And those who don't - won't. Whatever you do for them. It depends on the mindset of the other party. Loving, helping, caring for your friends is great, but if you put them above other important things like yourself, then they will get used to it. And most people won't do the same for you or will try to use your love for their own emotional self-satisfaction. That's just how it is. So I think you just need to do everything in moderation and state values right in life.
What makes a person contented?
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If you give a person money, she want more..
If you give love, time and attention, she want more..etc.What do you think makes a person contented? : )
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@cjko said in What makes a person contented?:
If you give a person money, she want more..
If you give love, time and attention, she want more..etc.What do you think makes a person contented? : )
I'm contented by knowing select people who brighten up my day, each and every day ... :)
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@mr_peanut until when you will feel that way?
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I will not ruin this topic here.
It's greediness
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@cjko said in What makes a person contented?:
@mr_peanut until when you will feel that way?
for now and evermore ....
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@cjko said in What makes a person contented?:
If you give a person money, she want more..
If you give love, time and attention, she want more..etc.What do you think makes a person contented? : )
An upvote or a PM from people whom I admire
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@cjko For me, this one depends again on perspective (how you view your life).
I wrote an essay before in my social science class in UP that humans, by nature, are
socially comparative
.We tend to imitate what others look or try to get what they have. If you can suppress this "nature", like appreciate of what you already have and stop comparing yourself with others, then you will be contented.
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@mr_peanut HAHHA :D impossible.. all things come to an end. Even feelings :)
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@giant-panda hahahhah aww. Cute <3
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@cjko said in What makes a person contented?:
@mr_peanut HAHHA :D impossible.. all things come to an end. Even feelings :)
Where old feelings come to an end, new feelings replace them ... I will always be content due to the nature of others.
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@liliputian1 True indeed. If we stop comparing ourselves to others and be comfortable and happy of what we have;that contentedness will be sure achieved then. :)
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@liliputian1 said in What makes a person contented?:
@cjko For me, this one depends again on perspective (how you view your life).
I wrote an essay before in my social science class in UP that humans, by nature, are
socially comparative
.We tend to imitate what others look or try to get what they have. If you can suppress this "nature", like appreciate of what you already have and stop comparing yourself with others, then you will be contented.
haha , peeps do that because their sheep ... and what do sheep do ... THEY FOLLOW ........
always be your own person and do your own thing ....
this helps to be content with the simple things in life
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@mr_peanut AGREE
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@mr_peanut hahha :D
so as to nothing is impossible.. how can you possibly stop your heartbeat when you're still alive ? :D -
@cjko said in What makes a person contented?:
@mr_peanut hahha :D
so as to nothing is impossible.. how can you possibly stop your heartbeat when you're still alive ? :DPersonally I have not yet achieved that ... but I have managed to reduce it down to 4 or 5 beats per minute ... my ex thought I was going to die :O but that does happen to be something I have always been fascinated in,not death per say ... but the reduction of heat rate to achieve ultimate meditation ;P
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@mr_peanut hahaha how did you do that?
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@cjko said in What makes a person contented?:
@mr_peanut hahaha how did you do that?
I shall explain that on another occasion or in PM at some stage..... but it does give a great feeling of ... well, almost seeing the light as it were ;)
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@mr_peanut hahha ok
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@cjko at my present age i dont think anyone can be contented.