I'd like to tell anyone who is struggling to find a reason to carry on; Think of a memory. Think of a time in your life when you were truly happy, no matter how how big or small that moment was, dwell on it. Now think of a time in your life when things were worse than they are for you now, a time when you thought there was nary a chance to come through it in one piece. let it pass through your mind for a moment. Think back to people you have loved, who have loved you in return, regardless of where they are now, take a moment to analyze your triumphs and your failures. understand that no matter what happens in life, you have to keep the goodness from your past held strong in your heart, and carry that joy with you in the darkest of shadows, You need to look back on the events in your life that just about broke you in two, and draw strength from that. You are still here, You're still fighting, even if you don't want to, even if you feel like you cant. embrace that fighting spirit. and turn your pain into motivation, channel all that emotion into a fuel for your will. and keep in mind. there have been times in your life where you knew joy, and those days will return, especially if you FIGHT for them. life doesn't get easier. I wish I could say that it does, but that would be a lie. The difference lies with you. You get better at handling the hardship, and eventually, events that almost broke you will seem like no big deal, so long as you keep striving to do better. the last thing i'd like to say; You can only rely on yourself at the end of the day. Learn to love yourself, accept your flaws, and change the things that are in your power to change. You have to accept yourself for who you are, because you cant break up with, nor cut ties with yourself. you have to accept every mistake and shortcoming and love yourself unconditionally. on top of that, you most likely have people that love you, that need you in this world, and would never be the same without you. You can make it through this, even if you are at your lowest, for if that's the case, the only way to go is up.
Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me
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@Cybernatic said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Yongsi-Brook I would like to know what changed bout him dat made you fall for him when in the past you didnt feel anything towards him(I feel like you crave the attention dat he gave to you as you have mentioned he confessed multiple times tho I could be wrong).
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I am not sure tbh.. Maybe its just infatuation.. When we talked last year around Aug, we talked about our old school memories and out of curiosity I asked him why did he even liked me back then (cuz we barely ever talked in school) and when did he actually started liking me? I always thought it was 8th grade cuz thats when the rumors started coming to my ears bout him.. But he told me it was actually 2nd grade.. He started liking me since we were in 2nd grade.. He told me the reason too and it was something quite silly... I expected the reason'd be something special but bleh.. But i think from that time, just the idea that someone could like me for so long.. just the idea that someone could like me despite my flaws made me started to look at him differently when the truth is i dont even known if he even knows any of my flaws nor I know if he even still like me in that way...
I think i'm in love with that idea of love.. that idea of something beautiful that could happen between us... So yeah I'll take your advice and I'm not gonna ask him out.. I think i'll just move on or maybe just keep crushung on him from afar.. I dont want that idea of something beautiful to become something ugly... idk am I making any sense? -
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@Døn said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Don_ said
I tried talking more face to face but I kept feeling so nervous and awkward around him.
Yeah that awkward nervousness, it's better to stay quiet or else you'll ruin it somehow.
It gets really awkward and then you start ignoring the other person because you feel embarrassed 🤦♂️
It's a dumb thing. Very dumb.Wow. You sound like you have gone through it too .
A mere attraction, got over it haha
I envy you.
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@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Døn said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Don_ said
I tried talking more face to face but I kept feeling so nervous and awkward around him.
Yeah that awkward nervousness, it's better to stay quiet or else you'll ruin it somehow.
It gets really awkward and then you start ignoring the other person because you feel embarrassed 🤦♂️
It's a dumb thing. Very dumb.Wow. You sound like you have gone through it too .
A mere attraction, got over it haha
I envy you.
You let your feelings get in the way :)
I take it you still haven't talked about it to him and you haven't moved on either
I never really acknowledged them so maybe it was easy for me.
You on the other hand have known the otherperson for a lot longer than in my case. Hope you decide soon :) -
@Døn said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Døn said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Don_ said
I tried talking more face to face but I kept feeling so nervous and awkward around him.
Yeah that awkward nervousness, it's better to stay quiet or else you'll ruin it somehow.
It gets really awkward and then you start ignoring the other person because you feel embarrassed 🤦♂️
It's a dumb thing. Very dumb.Wow. You sound like you have gone through it too .
A mere attraction, got over it haha
I envy you.
You let your feelings get in the way :)
I take it you still haven't talked about it to him and you haven't moved on either
I never really acknowledged them so maybe it was easy for me.
You on the other hand have known the otherperson for a lot longer than in my case. Hope you decide soon :)Hmm.. yeah I have decided.. I'm going to move on.. wish me good luck.
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@Yongsi-Brook not trying is worse than failure. I believe @Cybernatic has given a really nice suggestion .
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@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Døn said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Døn said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Don_ said
I tried talking more face to face but I kept feeling so nervous and awkward around him.
Yeah that awkward nervousness, it's better to stay quiet or else you'll ruin it somehow.
It gets really awkward and then you start ignoring the other person because you feel embarrassed 🤦♂️
It's a dumb thing. Very dumb.Wow. You sound like you have gone through it too .
A mere attraction, got over it haha
I envy you.
You let your feelings get in the way :)
I take it you still haven't talked about it to him and you haven't moved on either
I never really acknowledged them so maybe it was easy for me.
You on the other hand have known the otherperson for a lot longer than in my case. Hope you decide soon :)Hmm.. yeah I have decided.. I'm going to move on.. wish me good luck.
Goodluck Yongsi, you'll be fine ;)
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@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
But do you think I deserve him? I literally turned him down and ignored his confessions more than once in the past. I even dated other guys in front him.
I know you said you were going to move on but I just saw this. Yes you deserve him. The past is the past. We make a lot of stupid decisions when we were younger and tbh I have been in the same situation as you. I get why you want to just move on as to not ruin the wonderful feelings and ideas you have now. Who knows maybe your paths will come together in the future :)
Good luck to you!
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@Ash005 That is not me, vro
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@Cyberdyne vro? Not u? Whose suggestion it was then ?
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@Cyberdyne oh wait lol it was @Cybernatic
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@Ash005 said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Yongsi-Brook not trying is worse than failure. I believe @Cybernatic has given a really nice suggestion .
Hmm.. maybe I'll wait till Feb, say maybe till Valentine... if I cant move on and still harbour those feelings, I'll approach him.. Though I dont think I'll ask him out, I'll try doing what @Cybernatic advised.
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@Sassy said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
But do you think I deserve him? I literally turned him down and ignored his confessions more than once in the past. I even dated other guys in front him.
I know you said you were going to move on but I just saw this. Yes you deserve him. The past is the past. We make a lot of stupid decisions when we were younger and tbh I have been in the same situation as you. I get why you want to just move on as to not ruin the wonderful feelings and ideas you have now. Who knows maybe your paths will come together in the future :)
Good luck to you!
Thank you ❤❤. Really appreciate it.
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@Ash005 said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Cyberdyne vro? Not u? Whose suggestion it was then ?
😅 Ok this is funny!
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@Yongsi-Brook well talk to him and tell him how u feel best of luck
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@Yongsi-Brook said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Ash005 said in Im having a crush on someone who once used to have a crush on me:
@Yongsi-Brook not trying is worse than failure. I believe @Cybernatic has given a really nice suggestion .
Hmm.. maybe I'll wait till Feb, say maybe till Valentine... if I cant move on and still harbour those feelings, I'll approach him..
Yet undecided 😂
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To the person for whom this post is dedicated, I wrote this confession one night after the 2nd school reunion this year. I really thought you might have moved on and I did not just had the guts and even if you hadn't, I still did not thought I could make you happy or I deserved you at all.
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@Yongsi-Brook don't you want to know how he feels about you? have you asked him? Or do you know. Or you are just pushing him away, because you think you don't deserve him. What if he's still waiting, waiting with all the broken pieces of his heart, waiting for you to come, hold hands and fix everything. A person cannot move on with a broken heart. You are disrespecting his love by saying this that you couldn't make me happy.