Friends are something that an average person needs. Humans are just made that way. But I think it's not correct to think that friends can fix everything, as well as that friends will stay in your life forever. Throughout life you will meet dozens of people and make many friends. But only one or two out of hundreds will be something you may call a "real friend". That's if you are lucky enough to meed someone with similar mindset and values that you have. People you call 'friends' will walk out of your life for different reasons (they may be insignificant or important) and will stay with you for different amounts of time. That's why I think that it's better if you put yourself/your life/feelings first most of the times when it comes to your friends. You can stay in a really good relationship with them even if you don't always put them first or give all of yourself into these relationships. Because each one of us have their own lifes to take care of. Those people who will want to stay with you and will understand you/love you - will stay. And those who don't - won't. Whatever you do for them. It depends on the mindset of the other party. Loving, helping, caring for your friends is great, but if you put them above other important things like yourself, then they will get used to it. And most people won't do the same for you or will try to use your love for their own emotional self-satisfaction. That's just how it is. So I think you just need to do everything in moderation and state values right in life.
Do you find it easy to make new friends?
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@SoFa_king_Cody I've always found it easy to talk to people, this is not to say that forming a friendship is as easy.
I have come to a stage in my life where as much as I might look for some form of companionship, I have been burnt in the harshest of ways by the closest of friends. I have gone into great detail of this to various members of this community, and I'm not going to lay down my soul once again. This has lead to me being a very cynical middle aged guy.
When it comes to meeting new people an making new friends, I tend to treat them as I wish to be treated.... I give the respect they deserve and despite what I might hear of them, I always give the benefit of the doubt..... The point here is, they may have burned others, but as the new relationship goes, they have not burned me, so I take them at face value
As for what I might look for in a friend, well ... this is a very open-ended thing to answer ....
As Paula Abdul once sang
, Opposites Attract . This does not just stand for intimate relationships, but extends to friends to. Of course it is great to have some things in common, but I have found that is not always the case. Some of my best friends have started from the most bizarre of random situations.
fuk you can tell I aint given many epic answers recently hahaha
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I make friends with asbestos
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@YesTheLegend said in Do you find it easy to make new friends?:
I make friends with asbestos
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@YesTheLegend said in Do you find it easy to make new friends?:
@YesTheLegend said in Do you find it easy to make new friends?:
I make friends with asbestos
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Hmm, I have a friendly approach always to anyone..but I'm picky to whom I'll let in my life as my friend ,especially close friends. haha I have no time to deal with fake people , I prefer to have a single true friend than a hundred fake friends
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@cjko You should try asbestos
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@YesTheLegend I'm sorry, I have no idea what asbestos is
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@SoFa_king_Cody Few close friends r the best option tho I don't have any who think I'm as close :shrug: Their loss
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Sometimes for me it is and sometimes it’s not because I really don’t get along with people that much.
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@SoFa-king-Cody I find it almost impossible. Almost as impossible as in real life.