Posts made by Zas

@Futushimo Start by giving 5%, then 10%, then gradually one day it may be 100%. If not, one would retreat at 10% or 15%. Not feeling like they have given 100% and received inadequacy.

@FangYuan Some definitely deserves another chance. However, another chance given isn't something so carefreely given.

Circumstances for individual to change are "usually stark". Changes often happen over extreme prolong time frames known as "life", in which many events temper the new changes, encourage new "personal truth" to the individual.

At times, we may begin change drastically in one variable. It may be loyalty, pride, deception, or rather we decided and desire to change. These are the typical "changed over night".

For those changes to take results however, it would have to be months or years of results. It would be years of "no longer shall I deceive the less educated to further my own ego".

It is easy to say, "I will stand up for what's right, I will stand for justice."
It is difficult to stand for justice, time and time again, time and time over, it is difficult to act out a personal truth.

In all that said, changes does happen. People, even the worst among us have this capability. Doubtfully they will.

Every soul is born a clean slate. No hatred. No knowledge. "Imprints" on what they know.
For some whom have only known deception, only known lies to live. They thrive and believe it is needed as part of survival.
Others, just utilize it as an excuse to wreck havoc.

With ALL THAT said. The typical "changes" we would like to see in people. We won't see. We will know it once they have changed, it will be apparent, it won't be questionable. It would be "their new truth".

@Surya-Mani-Deepak Every rejection will further progress your character. There is no "backward" per se. Every bad relationships should encourage your new definition of a good relationship.

Every rejection is a healthy choice from both party that the life together isn't a dream, it would be a reality that is unhealthy for one or both members.

Rejections may feel really harsh now. It will become bittersweet later on.

From younger perspective, I think rejections are really painful due to the thought that "I'm not wanted, desirable enough, good enough." For whom exactly? Is one not good enough for?

Let's imagine, we weren't rejected. We would just be in a relationship that we shouldn't be in, that we shouldn't strive for.
What we should strive for, hope for. Are relationships where the partner put toward effort, courageous enough to talk beyond the good times, relationships that peer beyond rejections but the inevitable heartbreak of "death part us".

@FangYuan Possess, learn, refine one's understanding of expectation. To expect once is common, to expect twice? Foolish.

"100 years of solitude"
"The Little Prince"
"The Great Gatsby"

Typical 'great', nothing special in terms of hidden gems. Prince , Gatsby, Solitude, in order of ascending understandably if anyone is curious of checking out those classics.
If it's boring, it's boring, that's alright. The stories will still exist for you to come back at a later time frame in life to enjoy it then.

"The Little Prince" would be understandable to a younger audience, however also meaningful to the adults.

The other two novels, younger audiences may peer through, understanding the magnitude of statements will probably fall short. One can read about atrocities without understanding them. One can read about love without understanding it. One needs to experience such experiences in life for the book to reflect those ideas across well.

@Mr-Bey-Junior Here in America, one cannot speak for the entirety of course. There are many bright young mind as well, whom does perceive the world beyond their own zipcode, whom does truly value their time and the frame of generation they are born into.

Here in America, one often sees 30 years old acting like a child, pursuing anti-social behavior, like a child crying for attention from its society.

Here in America, getting a minimum wage job at 15 or 18 seems like the most damning experience in the world. What we have, we take for granted. Our sewer system for example, sanitary toilet. There are still thousands upon thousands of death in third world countries due to lack of proper sewer and sanitary. Yes, people still die from diarrhea, it's no joke, it's reality.

It's no one faults per se. Although, I would heavily weight that parents should do some proper parenting. However, the "parents" falls upon the same trap, they forgotten what chaotic madness the world can be and still is.

It's only the generation of cold war, it's only the generation when everyday might be the end. That truly represents what it means to be living.

All of this, in some cases, can be seen as good. We have children not worrying as much about war, and that's positive per se. We have children that doesn't understand how monumental and how many deaths, how many days of history it took for our understanding of humanity for Obama to be the first president whom isn't white.

It's only the generation that witness the evil of humanity, whom made whatever excuses they could to condemn and lustfully held superiority over other humans. That generation, will eventually die out. That generation, have taught the future generations of what it means to be alive today. That generation, has shoulder burden for the rest of us, just as many humans whom have lived long ago before we were ever conceived.

Nowadays, "the idea of democracy have won" across the globe, perhaps not in rule, perhaps not in law, but in its people. In its citizens. That is truth, submerge it as dictator may try, freedom is the heart of humanity. We all strive for it, hopefully one day, we all shall have it.

@Sparkle52 although this is super light humor, there's much enjoyment in it. To spark reality, the world and culture to the east is just different. Education isn't free, and it does determine your future much more drastically than American education system to par.

Upon stepping foot onto the new world to the west, and indulged in their education system. I couldn't help but laugh. In good sense. In innocent. In manner that in some countries, your only option when turning 12 years old is to be a farmer. There is nothing else. and the type of old world farming that doesn't utilize much machinery, the type of labor that's intensify 1st world countries at times are innocently ignorant toward.

And to those 12 years old whom accepted that his/her life will be a farmer from then on, it's just a level of maturity that Americans lack until they turn 25 or 30.

My health is my wealth. My knowledge is my experience. My understanding is my identity.

Edited fanciful version: My health is my wealth, not bars of gold. My knowledge is my experiences, not read books nor listened lectures. My understanding is my identity, not some reshaped imitations.

Loneliness is a beautiful aspect, as it allows us to further define and value companionship.
To know loneliness is to miss companionship, to miss companionship is to properly value those interactions.

"Introversion", like any other words, is just what it is, a word, there's "scientific" attributions sure, however, not definitively meant to be viewed from public to categorize states of being.

I would like to share, an intimate moment of realization within my past.

There is no interest in going to "parties", nor go out, have a good time, get drinks, go movies. etc. The "stereotypical" of the norm of what "outgoing, socializing, normal" people do.
Curiously, wondering what all the "fuss" is about, I attend a few.
After parties of parties and a "rap performance" hosted at some club.

It is at these parties, that I realize, "this is so boring". It seems that majority were there to let off steam and have some r&r time from their daily lives.
Their discussions usually contain "what happened last Friday" or "what's happening next week to be attended". Which just aren't my typical conversations as I find them passing hollows small talk to pass the time.

and of course, this is subjective. These are party goers, living social life, and they really enjoy it. It was really refreshing to see others enjoy aspects of "extrovert". However, these were just different people whom enjoy different thing is all. One could attribute the word "extrovert or socialist" to them, binary label serves little purpose in this manner.

In light of this realization, conversations/communications/connectivity with others stem from similarities and common interests. Finding others whom share those interest with you is a difficulty everyone have, extrovert outgoing people as well.

Think to all the people you have come to known within your own life, how many have actually "won you over" in sense of "wow, this person is definitely someone I would like to converse and possibly spend more time with".

It's a rarity for all of us. We only see small slices of time frame within others lives, so we may think that "introversion" is a curse and reason in why we aren't able to socialize on the same level.

Rest assured, every person you seen and met, they all share feelings of "Lazy, Lonely & Carzy" at some point, and just as frequent.

To end this long post, "some people enjoy their own company more than the company of others".
If there's contentment with that, great. If there's not enough stimulating communication within one's day to day, well, to know what one is looking for is essential to finding it.

Too often are youngsters believing "if I manage to fall in love, to find a best friend, accomplish ____. Everything else will fall into place, life will be better, etc etc."

Reality is more beautiful than that simplicity.

Usually, when it's a dystopia type of world building, there's some world variables in which 'cause affiliation to assert and maintain that power, usually stemming from systematic corruptions and beliefs over multi-generations. Not simply some rulers whom decide "all life should be misery" or "I had a bad childhood, so now let the world burn to ash."

Let's view "Handmaid's Tale", "1984", "Brave New World", "The Water Thief" as some examples.
Each of the power regime within these dystopia storytelling arise to power in manners that are fearful due to it's close encounter with real history.

The ideas that each regime promotes, why they perform atrocities, stem from reasons of control of the parties, reasonable due to world-building forehand.
Such ideas as "women are only valued in their ability to reproduce" (Handmaid).
or "all memories are subjective, truth is what is recorded, truth is what regime define." (1984)

In short, dystopia, the issues or miseries within them stem from actual reasons other than "some people just wants to see the world burn." One could write all the atrocity in a piece, without proper reasons of how it came to be, it's much more bleek.

That "dumb" was definitively synonymous for stupidity or foolishness.
Dumbness is inability or unwillingness to speak. Lame is inability to walk.
Dumb and lame comments stem from disabilities terminologies. #knowledge

Young relationships are more unstable than young friendships.
More difficult to maintain, and an addition to an existing friendship.

Interests in relationship is a wonderful aspect. There are no "good site" in existence I would say.
Being parents, knowing what we know, we're not exactly promoting dating site for teenagers.

I would highly suggests advising the nephew that interests is what brings people together.
The interest of desiring to know what it is like to "date" isn't the most positive one. However, very natural of course.

What I mean is, whatever his hobbies are, whatever he likes doing, there's probably others out there whom are "not the most social person" either and enjoy those hobbies as well.

Instead of looking for someone to date, just look for more people to know, to share interest. Dating then would evolve from that naturally.

In the adult world, "dating" can be seen as just a quick first date of 3 hours to get to know one another from complete stranger. To decide if there will be a second date. Adults have better idea of what they're looking for, what to expect within a partner.

For two teenagers to undergo that scenario is a bit overwhelming and perhaps ludicrous.
Especially for this scenario, the nephew should continue to socialize, and dating will naturally be in that socialization. For it to be a goal, is for like an adult saying "I will now go find my one true love".

Be patience, youngsters are usually comparing themselves to their peer. "Every other couple have love, why am I missing it. It's so easy for everyone else." The reality is, it's easy for no one at the very essence of the matter.

The easier it is, the more unreal it is. The quicker it became, the faster it may be undone.
Most of us later in life will eventually realize that, time is precious.
Spending time being single, taking care of one self is already a heavy feat.

Thus, healthy adult relationships usually consist of partners whom already have their individual lives taken care of before they enter that next chapter of their life, aka "a relationship".

Loneliness is a just a feeling per se, one can be alone and not feel lonely.

The need for companionship and communication is a constant prevalent within humanity.

Although, one that feels lonely must have known a great friend once upon of time.
Rejoice, for in memories, they live on, the friendship intact.
If not, then they are just sweet wishing for themselves what they perceive to see in others.

True loneliness is when friendships are real, and they have departed ferried on by death.
As more days are lived in life, definition of friendship will continuously be redefined.
As a child, one often cries over lost teddy bears.
As a teen, one often cries over what loneliness they think they percieve. Which is real for those moment in times.
As in the later years, one will surely and inevitably knows, what loneliness is.

It can be a beautiful thing. "Talking to the moon" - Bruno mars
For without loneliness, how would one ever hope to contrast it with companionship.
Without loneliness, companionship itself would be misguided and degraded from its true value.

• "How hungry you feel determines how soon you should eat, not how much."
• Every individual body structure is different, science can only deduce so much.
  Among the more important variables is 'how are you feeling physically, your breathing, ability to move around, etc etc.
  For example, those whom eat junk food often and lack vegetable could potentially feel a lot better by trying different set of food. It's only when we eat terrible things so often that we start to feel as if that's the norm.
  The goal should be to try and put toward effort, the goal should not be some numerical scale such as "I will lose 3 pounds this week".
  Most human endeavors, especially personal ones when taken up correctly will yield promising results eventually.
  With "losing weight", due to the vast variety of physiology and day to day life from one individual to the next, it will varies, and patience is a must. This is certainly a goal in which delayed gratification will set in a long time from the first day.
  Have courage, resist looking the mirror, resist stepping on a scale.

The overall truth is, just by making simple changes to your day, it will affect your body.

Even something as seemingly irrelevant such as stress can affect weight tremendously.

Too many variables to consider, which is why there is no definitive guide to how to lose weight, since losing weight is an effect of another goal. That goal may be to look better, however, to feel better is a better driver.

Too variable that we may be able to control is our eating habit and just taking a walk a day sometimes.
Dont' have to walk everyday, start at your own pace. Maybe once or twice a week. Next week, hey, you're out 4 days. who knows. Everyone have their own pace.

In comparison and to end this long post, any athlete will know that brute force will not triumph. There is much patience in building toward the goal. Starting runners will often only run little the first week, and gradually build to what will finally be the 5k marathon. In no way should they force any progress of that, as it could be detrimental to the body.

"I am..."

Depends on the nature of the relationship and the respected perception of partners involve.
For example, some relationship are open to others as sexual encounter, some does not.

If a partner explicit says that "flirting with others" counts as cheating, then that's the end of that. One would be disrespecting their views and values of a relationship by trying to convince them otherwise, especially with others opinions found on the internet from strangers whom have no merit within such said relationship.