You just gotta deal with it, leave it or work it out. Also I won't give you any unsolicited advice about HOW to go about it, 7 billion ppl on this planet with their unique ways, you must have your own.
Ofc someone can help you get through the shit but you have to row the boat.
But yeah if it helps, just know that it will be fine, because sometimes I personally feel the need to hear someone say it to me- It will be fine.
Light bdsm questions/perspective
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Ok I’m wanting to chat with people who are more experienced with this so that I can be better prepared for what my partner wants. I don’t think I have a good understanding about how she wants me to engage with her. She has like a million + other women read the 50 shades series and become excited at the idea of being tied up and other things that are out of the normal or vanilla sexual experiences. Where can I learn more or who can teach me more about this?
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find out by talking and testing ..start slow by holding her arms not let go..what does she wants? restricted or just game-play like a robber and the victim. does she wants straight up domination or just the feel of it.
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@mr-nice-guy good start, now @dousy is right. As for learning......oh boy. Big big list. Ask what thrilled her and what didn't is good. Websites will mislead. Good Vibrations** a sex teaching center in Oakland, CA. is a great place to start, as their staff is knowledgeable, open minded and great at these odder questions. Websites i DO suggest : Fet Life(dot com), Literotica(dot com). Happy hunting!